Hee hee! You kill me MT!! Kiss Kiss!

This is the place to vent but I have to ask. What has been going on that makes him think he should have control over those issues? Is he doing it to protect you? Is he trying to manage a budget? I always try to find the positive reasons someone may be behaving a certain way toward me. I am sorry you feel miserable, but take this opportunity to talk to him and find out what motivates his need to control your decisions. Maybe it is fear.

No one can control you, unless you allow them to. So what's up with that?

are you sure you don't have my husband?

This is sad. I hope his control issues don't get any worse because he will start to become physical. Do you somehow enjoy being treated like a little girl, he thinks he's your daddy or something.

During a serious breakdown, I thought my husband was being super controlling. When single, I'd deal w/my freakouts alone. My Dad always said I was a genius & all geniuses were considered "crazy." So I left my husband & lived under trees, at friends' homes (until I thought they were controlling!), and finally in a storage shed where hookers, druggies & artists would rent storage units & live in them. But I got back w/my husband & found a great MD & psych & altho' it took 5 years, got on good meds. Celebrated 20th anniversary June 6th & am very glad I stayed married. HOWEVER, if your husband keeps you isolated from friends/family, if he hits you, LEAVE. Living in a Safe House is better than being beaten. My 1st marriage was to a wife beater. 7 years into an OK marriage, he began beating me. It began w/him not letting me drive my car (I paid for it w/my paycheck when he wasn't working). It's so difficult b/c I have had manias & depressions all my life & I can remember times when I SHOULD have left a guy but didn't out of inertia (depression) and times when I should have STAYED but left (mania). Should I stay or should I go? Just know, sister, we LOVE ya & are here, so RANT as much as you need to & we will hear you!!! LOVE

I put a topic on Healthy Sex Do Relationships have built in obsolence or sell by date. I was told have lousy attitude to relationships. But 15-20 years seem the max spesh when MAD like me.

With all due respect, how are your meds working? Please don't be offended, just your posts are always of the extreme.... You either tell us about the best husband in the whole wide world or someone who sounds like an abuser.

I hope you're doing okay?

Why was he holding your effing stash to begin with??!!
Seriously, it sounds like he's treating you like a child,not an adult with a disorder. It's borderline abusive. I hope he gives you the pot tonight. You sound like you could use it.
peace, t

Self medicating is contraindicated with BP.

He might just be trying to help (in a confused way).