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moving on

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Well folks, it is truly time to move on, unfotunatly. John, my husband, is def going through with the divorce and wants to make it final soon. It's just hitting me all over again that this is real. That he really doesn't want to be with me any more. So..how do you move on?

How do you stop loving someone you have given your whole hear to? Someone told me you don't, you just have to learn to live without them. But how? How, when everyday you are reminded of what you have lost, do you get over somebody?

I love him. I know that part of me will ALWAYS love him. So what do i do? I miss him every damn day. And b/c we have a son together, I will ALWAYS be reminded of him, every day. I guess I'm just in a bad place right now. Thanks for "listening" guys
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No problem.If i may ask,why are u getting divorced?
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i lot of reasons i guess. but mostly b/c of my cheating, and b/c his lil bro commited suicide and john blames himself
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I know this is persoanl but I just want you to know that you are not alone when it comes to divorce.I still have feelings for my ex husband, but I divorced him because he couldnt keep his D*ck in his pants and got sick of his BS.So I just think back to all the bad stuff he put me and my kids thru.No I am not "over" him but I will never blame myself for the relationship going bad.I have moved on and it feels real good,wish I had done it the first time he cheated.
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wow I am sorry.I didnt know it was your cheating.I am sorry.I just put my foot in my mouth.I think if u cheated maybe it was for a reason?Was he loving to you?
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i wish he would have ended it after the first time i cheated, maybe it wouldnt be so hard. i know this is my fault, i dont know what the hell's wring with me
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Have you tried to work it out with him and stop the cheating or did it continue after he found out?
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I think that everything happens for a reason.Take this time to love your child alone and to work on healing yourself.Just because you are getting divorced does not mean you will never get another chance to work things out.There is always reconciliation and who knows what the future will bring for you?Take time to heal.
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oh, it happened again. and i told him every time. and im NOT blaming him, but i wish we could just go to counseling together. i wish i could just figure out the why. i dont know, i mean, why do i need to cheat? i love JOHN not those other guys
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Have u asked him to go to counseling? If he wont then you go.Like I said maybe he will see that you are getting help.Maybe stall the divorce and try to tell him to give you another chance to get help and change.A counselor can help you heal...and it could be just the solution to him believing you and will try again.I hope this helps?
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I know this is a terrible thing to go through, but time does heal all wounds. My husband left me for an older woman, kiddnapped my son and somehow ended up with custody of him the divorce. I was totally devastated and thought I would never get over it.

Now I am married to a wonderful man, who means so much more to me than my ex ever did.

I only get my son every other weekend and half the summer, which still kills me, but at least I know he's being taken care of and my ex is a good father, just a crappy husband.....

It takes time, but all things happen for a reason - God has something better in store for you, but it will only happen in His time.

I will keep you in my prayers. Like ilovefavre said, take this time to love your son and really begin to develop a strong relationship with him, and get to know yourself and nurture and care for yourself!!!
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You are very strong! It's obvious how much you love your little boy and that's unshakable. I admire you and hope everything goes well. Keep me updated!
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thank you guys!
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**HUGS**
i hope you and your little boy find happiness.:)
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