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First and foremost, let it be known that this site has been a great help to me over the last week, but truth be known I feel kinda imbarased. Every time my room-mate comes over to the office to see what I'm doing, I have to tab to a new window so he doesn't see what I'm doing. I guess I feel like a bleeding heart talking about my feelings and getting hugs and stuff, lol. Any other guys out there feel that getting help and masculinity do not coincide?
deleted_user
deleted_user
So you feel like not wanting to show yr room mate the nature of the support here ?

Or can you not talk about yr illness in real life ?

Is it the baring of your heart to other men ?
About the situation you are in.

It's difficult to talk to other men about the illness but most that shy away are scared of their own inner 'walls'.
DarkSign
DarkSign
I once was the male centric 'fortress', but I'm over that. I've been married for 118 years and this has allowed me to show my true feelings.

That being said...

I have experienced substantial bias from my male friends regarding this. hey see it as wimpy, gay or otherwise weak. They tend toward shallowness anyway. Many older men are much more understanding about these challenges.
deleted_user
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Grew in rough mining town girls all bust boys all biceps. Men dont cry or ask for help men wipe womesn tears and help others. Did that for 50 years then I asked for help and got none LOL. Now dont give RA about macho crap I am me and cry etc Mad and Glad. Back in the old town I would be called a faggot so F@@@K them I am going to do what I want you dont like it screw off. To thine own self be true. I love life women red wine long cigarettes poetry music and theatre No Fear No Limits No Shame No Blame
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deleted_user
I love this post
deleted_user
deleted_user
I guess it has more to do with the way I was raised than anything else... I don't really know why it's embarrassing, just that a man is defined by his masculinity, while a woman is defined by her sensuality.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Things they are a changing my friend. Men are getting more into their feelings now. I know my sons are sometimes a little uncomfortable when they tear up at a movie but I love it. My ex and my now boyfriend both cry at sad movies and sad memories and I find it wonderful that they feel comfortable enough to do so in my presense. Sorry for buttin' into a male domain.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Seriously, if I mentioned the word 'Sensuality' in my pub..they quiz you with their eyes ! Haha

Some of my mates were great.
It's like we don't talk of the times we couldn't get it up...just how great we are in bed..

That translates across the whole label of masculinity and it's trouble with the sensitivity needed towards mental illness.
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