Bipolar Disorder Support Group
Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.
There are so many people on this site experiencing the loss of their significant others lying, cheating, and leaving them as a result of a manic phase, and I just wanted to say a few words of encouragement.
For the next several months, your significant other is going to be experiencing a period of mania and possibly hypersexuality. They will be having sex with anyone they can have sex with and will avoid you the best they can.
Right now they don't want to feel anything or be reminded of having feelings. They want to have sex without any emotional attachments. They may become involved with other people, but those relationships will not last. Once they come down from this manic phase, they will feel again. They will reach out to those with whom they have emotional ties. They may reach out to you, but it is going to take time.
Just know this ... they love you, they care about you, but they just can't deal with those feelings right now. Be patient. Give it a few weeks, a few months. Let them know that you're still there and love them, but don't expect anything in return. Start putting yourself first and do things that make YOU the focus of your attention.
Time is truly the key here. If you want this person to be in your life, you have to be patient. You have to wait it out. And it's going to take a few months. Keep coming to this site. Keep educating yourself on their condition. And, while you're waiting, focus on things that make YOU happy. You are not alone. You are an amazing person. And you mean so much to that person who keeps pushing you away. Don't give up.
For the next several months, your significant other is going to be experiencing a period of mania and possibly hypersexuality. They will be having sex with anyone they can have sex with and will avoid you the best they can.
Right now they don't want to feel anything or be reminded of having feelings. They want to have sex without any emotional attachments. They may become involved with other people, but those relationships will not last. Once they come down from this manic phase, they will feel again. They will reach out to those with whom they have emotional ties. They may reach out to you, but it is going to take time.
Just know this ... they love you, they care about you, but they just can't deal with those feelings right now. Be patient. Give it a few weeks, a few months. Let them know that you're still there and love them, but don't expect anything in return. Start putting yourself first and do things that make YOU the focus of your attention.
Time is truly the key here. If you want this person to be in your life, you have to be patient. You have to wait it out. And it's going to take a few months. Keep coming to this site. Keep educating yourself on their condition. And, while you're waiting, focus on things that make YOU happy. You are not alone. You are an amazing person. And you mean so much to that person who keeps pushing you away. Don't give up.
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how many people hear are stuck in a marriage they wish they could escape
I also was lucky enough ,not to bring home any STD's.
But in todays world,that mght not happen anymore.
So even though I'm the hpersexed BP,I probably would not want to be the spouse of one.....yeah,sounds like a double standard to me too.
But as a spouse of a hypersexed BP...I'd be afraid ......just my opinion.
I have a problem with the tone of your post. Unless I'm getting it wrong, you think that everyone who is the SO of a hypersexual BP should overlook their indiscriminately screwing around on them.
I wouldn't put up with that behavior and neither would my SO and we are BOTH very hypersexual, and BP.
If someones SO WANTS to put up with that and be in a relationship that includes excusing and allows for that sort of behavior, that's their decision and that's their business.
But for many people, the behavior you describe is very much a deal breaker and I don't think that they are not being as supportive as they should be, just because they are not willing to accept that.
BP does not give one cart blanche to do what one wants without suffering the consequences.
Is it fair, to lose the person you really love because you went out of your mind and couldn't help yourself when it came to running around having sex outside the relationship?
No. It's a terrible, tragic shame. But it's just another bitch about having this illness. Through no direct fault of your own, you can lose your friends, family, job, peace of mind, financial security. Everything, sometimes.
Sad though it is, I still believe that we should be held accountable for our actions. BP is the reason we do some of the things we do, but it is by no means an excuse.