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deleted_user
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At age 55, I am for the 1st time in my life worried about not being a 10. Or a 7 in looks! I was too manic/active when young to worry about that. I was a proud Nerd, happy to be "in with the out crowd." Loved Beat poets & offbeat people. I played flute in symphonic & jazz bands. Had a gallery opening at age 20. Lived all over the US/Africa. Travled to Iceland, the Orkneys, Salzburg. Active politically. Suddenly, I am angry that I didn't Flaunt it when young & gorgeous. This is SO stupid. I've been happily married 21 years to a great guy. Most people who meet me think I am 38 or 40. Why does it make any difference how someone looks? I gained 35 lbs. on meds. I need Rxs but hate the weight. I used to get ill, lose weight from mania. I just looked at photos I posted & it's absurd, I chose all (but one) where I looked Great. Like I want people to say "Boop Boop Dee Boop!" Whatever! Judy Dench is awesome & she ain't gorgeous. Blither blather.
dobiedots
dobiedots
What's wrong with wanting to be attractive?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh I'm so proud of you for BEING someone, over looking life someone.
I've just wanted to disappear all my life. I'm as plain as a mud fence, at least I was, but about 8 years ago I got bells palsy and it left the left side of my face semi-parilized. I WISH I was still plain. Now I feel down right ugly.
Your accomplishments are amazing!!!!! What a wonderful life you are having!
YOU ARE A 10----NO! A 20!!!
YOU GO GIRL!!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm so embarassed about my 50# weight gain that I won't attend fire department functions any more (my husband is a fire fighter) The whole department used to know me as the cute, energetic, slim wife. I just can't face them, they must think I lay on the sofa all day and eat bon bons when truly I'm running a household with 4 kids and working out 5-6 times a week.
deleted_user
deleted_user
There is nothing wrong with being concerned with how you look - but be concerned for you and not anyone else. I've gained 40 lbs. in the last year from being pregnant and from meds. You look great and what is more important is that you are still the same person on the inside. Stay true to yourself and everyone in your life worth loving will still see the real you! Good luck!
dancingd
dancingd
I spent most of my adult life as hypomanic wonder woman.I was always the smartest,best dressed,best most challangeing job,best looking.The center of every party,was me.What a granious ego I had.

Then came a move to a small town .No art,no theater,no one to talk to.A slow decline into depression.A phycotic manic episode,and a DX of bipolar.(there's lots more to the story,but That's for another day).

I started out my journey ,as a 5'8" 135-139 er.
Meds have added 70 lbs.I am now in a very SLOW loss of some of this weight.
I don't think what you are describing is Blather....a great part of who we are ,is manifested in our physical bodies.Junggl,I have the same problem,it's not quite a feeling of shame,but I definately am in the wrong body!!LOL!!
I am a skinny woman.....this ass and belly I carry around belong to someone else!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's not stupid to be concerned with your looks. It's natural to want to be attractive. I see nothing wrong with that, as long as it's not excessive & superficial. Part of being comfortable with who you are is embracing your physical looks too. Personally, I have always felt that anyone who has character within & "feels" beautiful shows that on the outside too! You're gorgeous, just be kind to yourself!
dancingd
dancingd
The best lesson I learned in all of this weight gain....I may weight 200....but I'm still a sexy thing!
And with all my experiences....wiser too!:)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I was often told that i was beautiful but never believed it, partly because I'm Asian and most of the beauty symbols in our culture when i was growing up were Caucasian.

You're as pretty as you feel inside.

I think there's so much truth to that. You've lived a full and participative life, with many more years to go. If you believe in yr inner beauty, i'm sure it will show on the outside.

(It's easier for me to tell you this, much harder to live by it myself, lol).
deleted_user
deleted_user
There isn't anything wrong at all to worry about your looks. There is a lot of truth that what you protray outside tells a lot about what is going on inside. When I am out of shape for me I know things are not going according to plan in one fashion or another.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I spend alot of time and money on my appearance. Call me vain because I am but it's the only way I can bump up my self esteem.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I've struggled with my weight ever since I was 14 or so. I've always had wide hips and a big bum with a tiny waist - which only accentuates my arse.

Lucky my boobs are in proportion!

I think its natural to post pictures of you looking your best. I do it. Although my friends will see some pretty unattractive video journals :P
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