gyms, volunteering, political causes, teams, yoga,

you have to make the effort to join something and the lonliness will be much less

I am going through the same thing and what i realized is to replace the phrase, "I am alone," with an accurate phrase, which is, "I am with me."

Does that help you? You are with you and you have to be OK with being with you before you can be ok being with someone else.

it is easy to give those suggesions, and easy to talk about it
but it is really hard to do Hollie.
there is one thing that is garanteed....you wont lose the lonliness sitting in your room. 100% true.

The experience of the 'unknown' parts is what isolates us from others.I could be with plenty friends but that basic mental membrane separates.
It's the same thing that unites BPs here.The fact we talk openly about stuff that freaks sane people out.
Take small steps and don't overestimate the sane. I have made few new friends during BP.I was lucky to have old friendships.

If you wait in your room until you feel like making a move to do something, it may never happen.

Why not make a move to be more sociable as a start. Just get amongst people, get used to being around people, then maybe think about relationships.

You could try a gym during an off peak period, when there may not be too many people around. Something like that. Depends I guess on your interests. Maybe an idea to go to a support group for BP. At least some of the people might be able to get there head round how you might feel.

Oh, and Pluck

Love the avatar. Is that you and your girlfriend ?

If you wait in your room until you feel like making a move to do something, it may never happen.

Why not make a move to be more sociable as a start. Just get amongst people, get used to being around people, then maybe think about relationships.

You could try a gym during an off peak period, when there may not be too many people around. Something like that. Depends I guess on your interests. Maybe an idea to go to a support group for BP. At least some of the people might be able to get there head round how you might feel.

Oh, and Pluck

Love the avatar. Is that you and your girlfriend ?

Dear Hollie: I'm so sorry you feel so lonely and it is not abnormal to want to have relationships. Humans by nature are pack animals and we often get a sense of esteem by the relationships we nurture. Is there any groups at college that might interest you, drama, debate, music, dancing etc where you might meet like-minded people? Do you have any hobbies that involve being in a group. I take a jewellary making class with a small group of women. We have come to trust each other through our hobby and I have learned one is also BP and has given me her e-mail if I need support and one woman has been raped and still in the healing stage after many years. I have met three people on-line through boards I belonged to. We all did it very safely, meeting in a public place (one woman bought her husband and when she saw it was a safe situation we sent him to Home Depot! and had a lovely visit)Finally, use DS, I have met the neatest people on this board. I would be honoured to be your friend.

Hi HOLLIE!!!!!!!!!!!
just wanted to share with you, i also used to sit alone in my room..i then became agoraphobic. its not healthy. i agree with post #1 please try and get out even just a walk, trust me its amazing how much better you will feel......hugz lizx