I think this would be a good idea. Put it in a plastic zip lock and leave it there too I am sorry

Thank you Auntfeath....

Definately hun, I give my Dad cards n flowers n stuff, let him no how we r doing..

I think that's a great idea, maybe even read it to her and leave it there! I've done the same thing with my brothers, I take them Christmas card, birthday cards and of course flowers. We all have to grief in our own way!

I used to do that for my dad but my therapist told me back then to just write them and put them away but i think leaving it graveside is a good idea too better then just putting them away

its never too late.

sorry for your loss.

Whatever is in your heart you should probably follow. I'm so sorry for you both.

def do it. IT will help ease things to get them out of you and on to paper.

I am sorry about your loss too. I think that would give you some solice to write her a letter and leave it. She is with you in spirit.

She wrote me a letter a couple of months before she passed.. and I found it the day of the funeral.. Should I keep that letter in my drawer where I have it now? :(

I think that is a great idea. My brother did that when my dad died. He actually had the letter buried in his coffin with him. But my sister in law left a letter on her mothers grave wrapped in plasti and fastened in the ground so it wouldnt blow away. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you can work through it honey. It is hard to loose someone we love. I am praying for you. Hugs

Before she passed I hadnt talked to her for a year. She left one day on a binge and never came back. I got a call from her parents that she had been found in a hotel room. There are so many things I think about everyday, things I would want to tell her. Things I would like to ask her. I know that I will never get any answers.. this was just a suggestion they gave me.. and I dont know if I will do it.

I am so sorry.

I think it is a good idea to write a letter.

My first husband died of a cocaine overdose when I was 23, he was 26 ( He had been treated for addiction, but I strongly suspect he was bipolar. We had a 13 month old daugher. I was young, and no one I knew who was anywhere near my age had been through anything like it. It was so lonely, I missed him terribly.

For months, I had to bring a little photo album around with me. I needed it to remind myself that this was real, to show people...

I did one other really useful thing, I kept a journal about what I was going through. My journal entries where really written to him.

Years later, it is still moving to me to read those entries. It is interesting to see how, over time, I can see my progress, initially anger, despair, denial, resentment, slowly, acceptance, and then finally moving on and feeling it was OK to still be here, to be alive, and live. It was what he would have wanted me to do.

So do write a letter. Write one every day if you need to.

peaceofmind, it is possible to get answers, if shes still willing to give them. shes still around. she will make it known to you when shes ready.

whenever i want to talk to my loved ones, i just think it.

but ive also sent messages in bottles out to sea, and tied notes to balloons.

but you thinking it will let her know.

do what comforts you. It isn't always about what's right or wrong. Sometimes you have to do what you need to do to cope and move on. Do your thang sista