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Intimacy w/ BP and all these drugs.....

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I don't really know if this is "proper" conversation here or not but i am gonna go here cuz i wonder if i am alone here or not. I am a happily married woman. Have been for 7 years. I still find my husband physically attractive. We have 3 children......so obviously at one point we enjoyed being intimate. It seems as I get older and the BP gets worse and i take more meds the less i want to be physically intamate. Its like the spark ran away..LOL! I crave that time with him, god would i love that time with him but the meds dont let my body enjoy it anymore. Am I the only BROKEN BP person here. Be honest, is anyone elts's body negitavly affected sexually by the meds and if there is someone that has found a fix beside lingure, lighting, candles, music blah blah blah. Please let me in on the secret...I am desprate here! I did find this oil that helps with sensation Thank GOD for Dr. Hilda but its not just about your body I cant even get the thoughts in my head. Its like i am too tired to feel sexy..All from the dang meds. Once every 3 months is not OK!

TELL ME I AM NOT ALONE HERE!
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YOU ARE NOT ALONE! I too have had problems. And i have only been married for 1 yr.,dated for 1yr.. I have problems with meds causing me to feel this way. Loss of desire,intrest and so on,and on,and on. Anyway we as BP people don't consider hugging,holding hands,pats on the butt,I love yous,kisses part of intimatance. But oh my friend it is a big part.{BIG PART}. I feel life sex is the only to show intimacy. If We don't make love several times a week,I think he is not attracted to me. I know it is just my BP way of thinking. We have to take in to concideration, work, kids, house etc. that all plays a roll in it. Hang it there still your moments with your husband, grab is ass when you can and know in your heart he desires,loves you,and cares deeply for you. Hey you two haven't been together for seven years just for the sex. I hope this has helped somehow. Been there! Done that! If you need to chat I'm here for you Chick. Keep your held high and know that you are HOT! Chat later. A friend, KY2005
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your definetly not alone..sometimes different things play into this..stress, moods, medication side effects etc.. right now this is a problem with my husband and it appears since they have added seroquel to my drug cocktail i am never in the mood. it isn't him , i am just blah emotion was most of the time, and well for women it is a very emotional thing, we have to be emotionally happy in order to "be in the mood"
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Funny you say that i just was talking to him last nigh about how i was buying new sheets for the bed and a new comforter and i was looking for some new nighties and stuff along those lines......We got on the conversation about how him grabin a boob or smakin my ass does not increase my desire rather it turns me off. Why i asked him instead of eather of the above cant he scoop me up and kiss me like it was the first time. That surely would make me think about the bed room. Come up behind me when i am doing the dishes and kiss my neck....good God is it too much to ask for to get a few good goose bumps? Not to say that it would work all the time but gezzzz. But still i have to ask where did my own desire for that stuff go? I use to have a drive of my own! and now its gone:(
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I totally am with you. before i was diagnosed i had the craziest sex life ever. i was up and around and doing things to my partners that i later was ashamed of. today with my meds my honey is lucky if i can do it once a month. we used to fight like cats and dogs and then have great love making... now we dont fight but we dont have any sparks either... it is enough to make me want to get off my meds just to have that drive again
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Froggy

I am glad you brought this up because it also causes major problems with my husband.
Like AMThrasher, I used to have a very high sex drive and did some crazy things. My friends thought I was out of control and putting myself in dangerous situations but I never listened. Looking back now I think they were right.

I am on five different meds so it is hard to pin down which ones are causing this side effect but it does seem to get worse over time.

I have brought this up several times with my doctor but I don't think he realizes how much this takes a toll on my marriage.

Do we have to choose between having a sex life or being on meds?? I know I would not last too long with out meds so that is not an really an option. I have agonized over this for a long time.

Kathy
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My husband suffered from sexual dysfunction as a result of being bipolar. The Meds interfered and after about a year he no longer even had an urge or desire. He was so sad about that and tried Viagra and other things, but nothing worked. it was hard on us both! You are not alone!
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The drug most likely to cause a negative effect on one's sex drive is an anti-depressant. You should ask your doctor if you can try one that doesn't have a negative effect on your sex drive. There are a few out there that don't. Talk to your doctors, make them hear you when you tell them how damaging this is on your marriage. Get them to prescribe something else. Mine did.
CC
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oh you are not alone...I've gone from being a major horn dog to a monk. I asked my doc for Viagra back in July but I haven't even thought of popping a pill. My wife has lupus, so neither of us are all that frisky anymore :(
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i have no desire wat so ever and i cant even use meds as a n excuse i just started topomax when my bf touches me my skin crwals and i no its not him its me i feel so guilty
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I can definitely relate. My husband is always ready and I'm not. Sometimes I pretend just to please him. I want very much to be intimate but I don't have that physical desire and it TOTALLY upsets me. The doc says its the celexa and she won't take me off right now. I'd give anything for this part of our mariage to get better.
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I lost all my interest in sex when I crashed off the last manic cycle. I sometimes can fake it, but I really am not even interested in self-stimulation. Husband and I have been married for 8 years this May - we used to have a very active sex life. I'm not sure how he's doing himself - he's not starting anything and mostly hasn't since he had a rotor-rooter job a year ago.
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you sound like all my married friends without BP. who knows what is BP and just the daily grind of 3 kids in a long term relationship in which you share the same address. start with some toys and some lingerie and some massages and a night in a hotel and if you still dont have a spark then maybe its the meds.
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I'm so glad I'm not the only one. I really tell myself o.k. tonight I'm gonna make myself in the mood, but it comes and goes and the desire is left at the bedroom door! Does anyone know if there is any meds out there we could take to get the desire back???!!!
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You are not alone I too have intimacy issues. For a couple of years i was having wild orgasmic sex. After being diagnosed with bipolar and being put on meds my sex drive has died out.When my husband and i have sex 8 out of 10 times I fake enjoying makn love to him. All i want to do is feel that passion back that desire for him. I WANT TO FEEL LIKE ME AGAIN!
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