Dear Lildee:
I have two ADHD boys. Mornings are hell until there medication kicks in. Homework is hell as the medication is wearing off. I have even done the math to find out how many more days I have to go through this until they are adult! LOL Am I complaining, you bet I am. Do I feel empathy for those who can't have kids but want them, of course I do but their situation doesn't change mine. Oh, and BTW, I didn't "choose" for them to have ADHD.

lildee --- i have daughter who is up for adoption if she doesn't quite swearing!! LOL I hiope I didn't offend you, just trying to put a smile on your face!! lol

All parents have days they need to vent about their kids just to get it off their chests. And being bp I'd rather they vent on here than lose control. If you don't like the posts lil please don't read them

You obviously do not have kids, Lildee.
I did not think I could have kids, Lildee - my daughter is a miracle. I adore her and what she does as a 2 year old is exactly what she's supposed to do.
But, if I need to come to my friends on here to get support, you bet your ass I will.
If you want to discuss your sadness about not having a child, no problem. Just look at where your anger is coming from.
And, if you think that BP's are going to stop complaining - Ha!

I think maybe whats upset lil is that she doesn't have kids. we can all vent can't we. x

The problem is...you don't know before you give birth what kinds of kids you will have, or if they will need special care or whatever...It's a gamble.

I mean, if you haev the means ($) and the opportunity to get genetic testing, especially for BP, then I would do so, but some people just can't afford it.

thats not a problem, a difficulty and a challenge and though you all vent, you love them right?

Uh yeah, if you read my post, I got that she is upset about not having kids....
I just wish people would say what they mean. Venting is fine.

LIFE is a gamble, no?

Walking out the door is a gamble...

Yes, we can try to make educated gambles, but even with all the technology and education, it's all a gamble.

im just having a bad bad day sorry to vent

(((((Lildee))))
I got that, dear. I may not come across as empathetic, but I truly am. I'm just having difficulty with people asking for help in a backhanded way.
Do you want to share what happened? Or do you just need to scream?

I know...I'm about your age, and I don't have kids. Sometimes I can't even stand to sit in a restaurant when kids are screaming and carrying on. I have even been so rude in my younger days to ask to switch tables. But I realize now that I am older and more mature, that more and more kids have autism, mental diseases like us, emotional problems, etc. I definiteley give those moms and dads credit for that they do, becasue they have the most important job in the world.

I think I am going to get the genetic testing done so I can make an educated decision on whether or not to have kids.

I NEVER MET ANYONE NICE ENOUGH TO HAVE KIDS WITH AND I WILL BE 39 THIS MONTH. IT SADDENS ME SO. AND THEN THE PEOPLE WHO KILL & ABUSE THEIR CHILDREN IS PATHETIC

I try for a baby every month and every month me and my husband fail so not only am i bp but m y ovaries dont work well either