We've been together for 12 years and have 2 seven year old children; he's 33. He's always been moody and is mostly a calm quiet person, but can sometimes just be super talkative and come up with some crazy ideas. Occaisionally he would be pretty unreasonable, not only with me but with other people. For the past few years he's been on various meds and supplements trying to control his stress and anxiety. About 3 months ago he started Lamictal. He's on 200mg. Two weeks ago he told me he wanted a divorce and moved out. Since then his behaviour has been really erratic. He blames me for all of his depression and anxiety. He's only admitted to me that he has severe depression and severe anxiety, but I know the meds he's taking are for BP. He tries to be really controlling when he isn't usually a controlling person. He gets mad very quickly. He seems to have little patience or tolerance. Sometimes he seems like he's in a daze and then at other times he's very calm and gentle and loving. He's pushing forward with the divorce with some sort of urgency--he's contacted a lawyer and had me served. He's pushing to have the house sold and wants everything settled right away. We never really had major issues in our marriage and didn't fight all that much. It was a little bit of a surprise to me that he wanted a divorce. I wanted to try to get some marriage counseling, but he said it was too late for that. He says he hasn't had a decent nights sleep in more than 2 weeks and is tired a lot during the day. I don't really want to get him angry, which is very easy to do lately. I'm actually fine with a separation, but don't really want to get a divorce. I know he doesn't have much of a support network (he's from another country, so no family here). I'm thinking it might be his first manic episode. I don't want it to be like I'm giving up on him when what he probably needs is support. I don't want to give up on the marriage either, but he wants what he wants. Should I bring up the topic of BP? I asked if his doctor knew that he was making life changing decisions on a new med and he claims that she thinks it's a good idea. I've never talked to his doc and only know who she is from our insurance paperwork. A therapist friend suggested that I contact his doc and tell her what's going on. Should I?
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