oh, my gosh, what a total butthole!!! you can't help it. sinus infections must be going around. i would be in a complete rage too. and, if i wasn't so sick, i'd be marchin my happy butt right over to the nightclub and have a drink myself. i suppose i'm a bit manic myself, but i think you're feelings are totally justified. i'd let my husband have it with both barrels!!! i believe what goes on around you affects how your moods go as well. so he's helping add to everything...

I know that my ex would look for any opportunity to get away when I was with him. Now I understand...I wouldn't have wanted to be with me either.

It may not have anything to do with you and just about his issues and how he is dealing with your behavior.

I understand it still hurts though. Could you do something nice for yourself tonight??? Maybe just talking here. I'll throw a piece of chocolate your way!
Hugs Ireland...I hope he takes the time to understand BP soon.

i know that i am not fun to be around, that is unless i am a drunk happy manic who will stay out all night...but he is and always has been extremely hard to deal with-sometimes i wonder if he is bipolar, i swear. except at least i don't spew hateful words at him.

MEN MAKE ME WANNA SCREAM!!!!

Having some messed up feelings myself tonight. Sorry you're hubby isn't being attentive. Some men don't get what having a relationship means to a woman.

Honestly, I don't think he will get it until I put on skanky clothes and walk into a bar and start feeling on and flirting with everything in the room that has a...well you know what. might do it tonite, what the hell?

Oh, Ireland. I had one like that once and I swear he could just turn his feelings on and off. He didn't even know he was doing it.

Take good care and a nice hot bath.

ireland i start to think like that , but then i always end up just wantin back to my bed alone , im sorry its so bad for you just now , i wish that magic wand of mine was workin , hand on i go see if i can find the batteries for it !!

Hi, Ireland80!!!
No, YOU don't suck. He's the one who sucks, at least at the moment!!!
And maybe you SHOULDN'T take this anymore. It certainly sounds like something has to give.
You've already gotten help from therapy. Have you tried marriage counseling yet? Perhaps that would help go a long way towards finding more satisfaction in your marriage. If he refuses to try that, then perhaps you should go back into therapy yourself to help you consider your options and come to a decision as to what to do.
I'm so sorry your dealing with no sleep, a sinus condition and a nonsupportive spouse.
He's got some serious problems of his own to tend to, and I hope that he does.
Good luck!!! I hope things look up soon!!!

That is fucking shit. No way is that cool. Is there something going on there? Have you been having problems?

I took a sleeping pill in a nanosecond of my mind making sense. So I should at least be asleep in a litle while. But my anger over this is not going away, and he is blaming the whole thing on me being BP. What a slap in the face. It's impossible for me to have any rational anger or hurt feelings i guess, because BP obviously defines every single thing i do. How small a person must be to use that against me. How can he act like this?

our problems have stemmed from him working there. i told him i trust him but i don't like the attention he receives from female co-workers (which i have witnessed firsthand on a visit there this past weekend) and i don't like his enjoyment of it. he doesn't bother to set boundaries b/c he likes it. i told him DO NOT take this job, it know it will lead to fighting, well he took it anyway. god only knows how they treat him when i am not there watching.

couldnt find any batteries but i seen someone on here with a gun that gave me another idea lol

Hi, Ireland80!!!
While I take your point about the females that he works with and his attitude towards their affection -- I wouldn't like that in the least, either!!! -- a bigger truth is that the world is full of women, everywhere one goes.
If you don't like or trust how he behaves about women there, you probably aren't going to feel completely happy about him, in this regard in general, even if he doesn't work at the club. Within this context, the club is just highlighting and exacerbating a wider ranging problem that should probably be dealt with.
Good luck. I don't think he has his priorities straight right now. I think he should be much more supportive of you right now.
Sigh. It's so hard to get non-BPs to understand just how difficult an illness this is!!!

I am sorry you are so upset. Manic state can make us feel so agitated sometimes. Honestly, when I am manic and agitated I prefer to be alone. I know how I treat people when I am agitated and I would rather they be doing something they enjoy. Maybe he doesnt really understand you want him with you.