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I have Failed

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I feel like I have failed as a mother. My 4 year old son hates being with me it seems like all he wants is his daddy. its killing me inside.
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They all go thru that phase. It'll pass, sweetie.
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My H and I split up a month ago, and now my 3 year old son calls for his daddy all the time! When I go to put him in bed, he says "I want Daddy to read me a book"... I know it is just a phase, but it kills me as well... I told my son that Daddy and Mommy love him very much, but Mommy and Daddy fight all the time, so they can't live together... it really helped to explain it to him.
sjdaud
sjdaud
This behavior is normal and healthy for him to bond to daddy. It is crucial to his emotional/sexual development to bond to daddy.

Not your fault. Not daddy's fault and not your son's fault.

Just a phase which will last for awhile, so hang in there.
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that probably means you're doing a good job.

my three year old (almost four) says he prefers his dad too... because he rarely gets to see him, and when he does all they do is play.

it's tough to have to be the disciplinarian... but it's what's best.

kids their age just say things... they don't REALLY know what it means.
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No! It's a natural part of a child's development to act out that way, even if it it hurts. Of course it's in OUR nature to take everything way personal too. You have not failed at all, I know it's really hard to see it that way though. The main caretakers are the ones who get this treatment, but it is also a sign of complete trust. If he didn't love & trust you totally, then he wouldn't do this. Hang in there. ~Hugs~
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((BIG HUGGLES)) Kids! It is a passing phase, they need to feel secure, is all..You keep loving, n when he says "Daddy does/says" u just "OOOhh does he?" n carry on, dont let him sense u r upset..at this age, its all about "big is best", when he goes to school, they re-itterate these common mis-conceptions,,It should be gone by hols!! Be strong n be proud, keep trying..Little boys always LOVE thier mums xx
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totally normal child you have there.
Mommies meet the needs and dole out most of the discipline.
Daddy's are just big toys, for the most part.
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