I wish I had some good advice to give you alas I have none. I do however have an 18yo ds who drives me batty.

A wild defiant painintheneck pushing all your buttons teenager.

I can't imagine that happening to another set of parents. My son, who is lucky to be alive, is 21 and he still does bullshit. I thought it would go away with the terrible twos??? But it just gets worst each year.

I need one of those bumper stickers that say, "Hire a teenager, while they still know everything!"

I am very pro sobriety, but if you have a teenager may I suggest a few slugs of rot gut? Perferably something in the 300 proof.

my 15 year old was being defiant, refusing to go to school, and showing signs of bipolar. she mentioned to me that she wanted to go to sleep and not wake up. that was my opening to throw her butt in the mh hospital and start the tough love. while she was in there, i also contacted juvenile justice and started an undisciplined minor report. her choices are stay at home, take your meds, and act right, go back to the hospital, or we'll find a group home. i am done having a teenager run my life and my household. you do have options.

When my daughter was 16 I corrected her for using some of the most vile nasty language imaginable. I hit her and she had me arrested. I spent the night in the jail and when the judge talked to me the next day, he said that I was well within my rights as a parent to do what I did. He also told my daughter that if she started it again she would be spending a little time "behind bars" for wasting the police and judges time. When I was able to talk to her again without ripping her head off I told her that if she didnt fly right Check out time is 18. It is called tough love.

If you've read anything on Psychology (Jung whoever), you'd know that if people do NOT rebel in their teens, something is wrong. Even the best people get cantankerous w/all the chemistry happening in their brains/bodies. Also, BP is a brain disorder (physical defects in the actual brain) not something we choose. Very likely she has BP if you do. It's also really difficult to live w/someone who has BP (ask my husband). So perhaps you're driving her nuts, too. This too shall pass!

What consequences do you give her and rules for putting a roof over her head?

It is very possible that your daughter may be bi-polar as well and that she may need meds and assistance as well. When my son was 15 he went through a period of time where I thought one of us was going to do the other in. I finally committed him to a group home for trouble youths where I was told that he had bi-polar. To bad it took ten more years for the doctors to figure out that I was bi-polar as well.

We need to work together and make something like the Stepford Wives for our teens. We could call it Stepford Teens, how unique.

That is the only hope we have. It is more hopeless than our BD. :^)

Just being out of this stage in my life I'm going to be honest, if shes working hard to make your life miserable specifically she for whatever stupid reason hates you. If shes just acting up and its bothering you she probably hates herself, its highly likely she has bp or depression I know most of my friends had something wrong with them and we got in our fair share of trouble. The only thing you can do is find out what she lives for and threaten to take that away and mean it. But dont be suprised if she takes off if you do. And she probably will at 18 anyways. The good news is that within a few years she'll chill and you'll get your daughter back. I'm sorry if anyone thinks this is awful but its just my opinion on the topic from my personal experiences.

I have a 16yr old defiant, bipolar daughter who has really drained me. For the last four years I have dealt with her being kicked out of school, not going to school, being placed for a whole year in a group home to come out and repeat all of thebad behaviors all over again. She has spent time inthe juvenille hall, and right before xmas she ran away from the group home and is now living with god knows who, and I heard she may be prostituting. I have finally decided to let go. I realize I have done all and everything I can do. i have suported her through all of this and everytime when I think all is well she runs away to be with negative people and running the streets. so I decided to let her be. The state is useless and to me they do not do enough to try and help these kids. I wish you all the best and know you can talk with me if you would like. I have no one to talk too. So I came to this support group.

I think you need to find a more affective way of communicating with her. How educated is she on bipolar and how old is she?

Hitting is just going to lose any shred of respect your daughter may have for you. I know teenagers are a pain that's the name of the teenage game. But honestly all you can do is talk to your daughter and really listen to her. I know how difficult it is but when she has an outburst you are the adult act like one no matter how angry she gets remain calm. Anger will only make her more angry and then you will become more angry.
And if you can't handle that you may need to send her to another room and tell her you will talk to her after she calms down. Be firm and strong. If you are having an argument just keep calm and keep insisting she do as you instruct with out letting her past you. Eventually when she sees she can't win she will do what you insist. Also sometimes it's helpful if you tell her to do something with the expectation that she will do it.
Because if you expect her to disobey and fight she will disobey and fight. You might be surprised. I've done this to my ex and it worked every time. That's how I got him to sign papers when I was trying to get my children enrolled in mitlon hershey shcool he was very against it. He tried to fight me at first but when I handed him the paper and told him to sign it with the expectation that he would, low and behold he signed it.

And one last word of advice I know this sounds crazy but let her make her own decisions. If she wants to have sex you aren't going to stop her so put her on the pill tell her to use condoms and the rest is up to her. It's the only way she's going to learn her own lessons faster, not only this but having her own decision making power might scare her straight. Trust her to make good decisions and she will.
and if she's doing something illegal let her go and call the cops on her. Also call the police and ask what you can do legally as a parent. When my mom was having issues with my brother running away in our state they said there was nothing she could do. And she had to provide a way for him to get into the house in
case he would come back.

That's really all I could tell you right now because I don't know the specifics of what you are butting heads on. I know it's a scary world for parents because legally parents are held responsible for our teenagers actions and legally there is little you can do to control them.