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Oh no your not !

{Pantomime season}

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that's a toughie! Just keep hope,, i think there's actually a few good one's left out there.. lemme know who you come across, and we'll compare notes!

Good deal...the older I get, the harder it is to find the good ones!!!

My mom always says that it's bad to keep a grudge. It only breeds hate. Hate is not good if you are a christian I don't read the bible but am sure the is a passage regarding this. You could ask God to forgive him and then you could too. Just to put the bad blood behind you.

Don't feel so bad...the younger ones aren't any better then the older ones.

After all, they all learn by their examples. Except for my brother...idiot.

Yeah, i know all about that stuff Donn, but it still hangs on me somehow...that's the prob.

I've had my share of man-anger!! But, you have to let it go. It's too heavy a burden and life's hard enough. There are good ones out there, rare gems that they are.

individualism makes it easy for us to hold on to resentment of the past. Especially in relationships, it's amazing how one can hate someone they dated years ago, yet have no feelings for.
Personally, I met the girl of my dreams (still don't think I deserver her) when I realized that I wasn't that great of a boyfriend/husband in my past relationships- despite the legitimate flaws my ex's had.
There is not a person out there that will make everything perfect. There is, I believe, a soulmate for each of us: but you better believe that he/she is going to get on your last nerve at times:)

hatred only hurts the person who hates. I know because it eats me every day. But I feel that the problem lies within ourselves. Sometimes we only see the terrible sides of people, sometimes our own devils make the world worse than it is. I dont know how to get rid of the pain, I have tried to forget it by not being around it but that doesnt work. The only thing that I have come up with is to face what you think you hate and go from there.

17 years is a very long time. I never kept any of mine that long. I'm on the third one now (that's husbands, I'm not counting boyfriends). Third time's a charm they say and it seems to be true. He's not perfect but he's perfect for me. There are a few left out there just waiting for the right woman.

thank you all, I appreciate your comments.

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Good men are usually found under good women.

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Star,

I was just recently told that when thoughts provoke emotional responses those are the hardest to let go. Mainly because we have "proof" to back the thoughts up. I was told there is an underlying message we tell ourselves when we hang on to these thoughts like I am worthless, or I am a failure etc. When you find out the secret, let me know because I want to let go of alot of grudges too. I think alot of it has to be conscious work. Try journaling and look for a pattern in those thoughts then you'll find the reason you are holding the grudge. Take Care and Good Luck

PS: Most men are scum.

Not all of us men are so bad. I do my best to be a good one.

#12 i want to be found under a good woman.

i'm a man hater, too. i can only tolerate geeks, nerds, and gays, generally.

i get branded queer everywhere i go, and i'm okay with that for so many reasons, but the concept is hysterical: if they only knew how repulsive i find most men.