I hate myself so often and now is one of those times, so when I come here and I see people saying mean things about other people here, it makes me feel hopeless! I come here and just want to be loved and to get love. I have had a hard time posting or responding to peoples posts. Today was the first time I put up a post in a while and while I did get many replies of love and support I still am disheartened. I don't like to come here and see entire posts of what an asshole someone thinks someone else here is. If people feel that way, why can't they just leave the person alone. Why would someone write a whole post to get the whole board into a stir? What is the point? I saw a post that Unhitched wrote because someone called her negative or bad or something for this community. Now was this right to make her feel so insecure and bad? No, it was not. We all know that self image is a big part of this disease, hell it's a big part of life for anyone. Well, whoever wrote her this message, (and I really don't give a shit who it was) I just don't understand it. It made Unhitched feel bad enough and feel that she needed to question herself and needed to ask her friends here whether or not her opinion counts or if people here felt she was negative. Why? If someone feels she is negative then don't reply to what she writes. Yes peoples words here may anger us at times, but what people usually have to say is opinion and is usually trying to be helpful. There is no need for disrespect or hateful words to be thrown at someone. Also, if you want to talk to someone about how they may have a negative impact on you or your mood, do it in a respectful way, with intelligent use of words and maybe ask for reasons why a person feels they way they do. Most important if you are going to approach someone about how you feel about them and you are going to possibly be negative or have a serious disagreement with them, do it in a personal message. Do not try to humiliate them in front of us all. When a person does this public humiliation to another here, it only upsets or triggers bad moods for others and makes the person that is trying to do the humiliating look like an ass! I don't want to come here and see all of these fights and mean things being said. I am hurting big time right now and when I see these things it triggers me. I get very hurt and feel more alone then ever. When someone is hurting and they look to go to a place where they can feel better, they don't want to see that crap. I know for me it makes me feel worse. It makes my calm and reasurring place become chaotic and unstable for me. I know, don't read it if it bothers you, but once you start reading it's hard to stop. I am in a bad place right now and I want this to be good place for me and everyone to come to.
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