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I give up!

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I give up trying to please everyone! I give up giving everyone in my life the benefit of doubt! I give up thinking that my STBX and my Mother can get along for 5 min. for the holidays, and I give up thinking that anyone in my RL cares about me or what my needs are! All they are concerned about is themselves, while I am over here worrying about everyone and their problems, allowing them to effect my emotions and my moods! I am sick of being the only person that everyone can count on, b/c no matter what I am going through in my head, I still find the strength to be there for them! I'm tired of it! I want to pack up my shit and move away... never talk to any of them again!!!!
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Wow, you really are ticked. They can't make you do those things you choose to help. I do too then get overwhelmed. You need to just relax and back away from their problems, let them figure out solutions themselves. We tend to sabotage ourselves by trying to do too much for others. Try not to get involved as much it will help you.
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You need to take care of yourself first. You certainly can't please everyone. I know I get some benefits from helping others sometimes, but, again, you need to watch your own limits. You need to know when you CAN'T do any more, physically and mentally. And know that you did the best you could at the time. Let them take care of themselves sometimes.
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I have been there and while I AGREE I guess its the whole You can't give up. However some of what you say makes sence. I mean do you have to spend time with the family? I decided this year I am not. I am staying home with my kids and enjoying the fireplace and got a couple new games to play as a family My husband my kids and myself that is it!!!! And that is what we are doing!!!!

I hope you feel better soon!!
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But in a way they force me to! They all call me at work, get me in trouble, and then if I don't have time to talk, or if I tell them that I am not getting in the middle, they blame me, and gang up on me! My mom and my STBX are the worst... I just can't handle it anymore!
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I used to be able to all for everyone when I was manic. Then when I retreated people expected me to keep it up and when I couldn't they got all pissy at me and I at them. Took alot of practice and I'm still working on it but I don't do it anymore. I try to have superficial conversations when ever possible. I noticed most people I worry about or try to help just go to sleep at night while my head is racing. I no longer have the room in my head for that crap. Only serious neccessary things will I address because I do love my people, but the everyday disfunction no way!
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MaryA..I know just how you feel,at least in the way ,my family still looks to me for strength,and coheasion.
I'm the one expected to pull together the FAMILY events.
If someone has a trouble,they always come to me.

I have tried to explain,I am unable to cope with these issues anymore.It takes all I have to keep myself going.

In the past ,that was my "role",the family glue,that held us all together.......I tell them,not anymore.

I have had to distance myself(hard to do ,when my sis lives right behind me!)...but I take fewer calls,and limit my time with them.I am sad and lonely,but it's what I have to do ,to keep on track.
Best of luck to you
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My husband & I live far away from family. We connect via letters/email & I call my parents once a week. I visit them 2X/year for 3 days. Can't take more than that. Love my brother very much but husband's family are all contentious. I really do believe it's OK to ditch family if they are making you crazy.
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The really hard part is that I am leasing my grandmother's home, my baby sister lives with me (baby, she is 18 and pregnant)... my mom is unmedicated BP and addicted to pain pills... I am separated from my H, but we are still in constant contact...
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Yikes!!! Actually you sound pretty good considering. Do something for yourself. Even if it's just a few hours or a weekend. Guess what they will all survive trust me. To heavy of a load for you. Especially if you have kids.
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You are such a strong person too.Admirably so
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Holy crap! I got a compliment from Puck! LOL.. j/k...

I would love to Lindel, but no one will watch the kids... I am the strong one... I am the rock... I am everyone's backbone, and if I get upset about being all that, everyone gangs up on me... so I plaster a smile, and pretend like everything is ok... I am there to listen to everyone, but if I try to ask for help, I am basically told to Man up and get my shit together...
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***PLUCK*** lol
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How old are the kids?
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My son is 3 and my daughter is 20 months... they are still babies...
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Take care of yourself first and rid the toxic people from your life. I told my ex mother in law to go to hell andit was the smartest thing i ever did. We have now established boundaries.
I think you are amazingly strong to put up with so much and keep going. I couldnt do it
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