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I am so beside myself right now. My husband was into porn when I first met him, he had the occasional magazine under his bed. I wasn't alarmed by it at first because growing up in a house full of boys it wasn't new to me.
However, once we got serious and moved in together and got married, it started up again. Only this time it wasn't just magazines it was videos as well. We argued over this at length, and I explained to him I didn't like it or want it in my home and I felt inadequate when he looked at it. He stopped for a long time, but then last night I was watching tv and had gone to saved programs to restart something I was watching and I found an adult movie that he had been watching. I felt so violated. I waited and asked him about it and he lied and said he didn't watch it. Please! We are the only two people that live here! He insisted that he didn't know how it got there and got angry with me for questioning him. He finally admitted it but by then the damage was done. I hate being lied to and he knows it. I just feel so betrayed and annilated. He is supposed to be going over the road for his new job soon. I don't even know if I trust him to stay faithful now.
However, once we got serious and moved in together and got married, it started up again. Only this time it wasn't just magazines it was videos as well. We argued over this at length, and I explained to him I didn't like it or want it in my home and I felt inadequate when he looked at it. He stopped for a long time, but then last night I was watching tv and had gone to saved programs to restart something I was watching and I found an adult movie that he had been watching. I felt so violated. I waited and asked him about it and he lied and said he didn't watch it. Please! We are the only two people that live here! He insisted that he didn't know how it got there and got angry with me for questioning him. He finally admitted it but by then the damage was done. I hate being lied to and he knows it. I just feel so betrayed and annilated. He is supposed to be going over the road for his new job soon. I don't even know if I trust him to stay faithful now.
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It started the same way with him...then came the internet, OMG..worse...then to strip joints, meeting people...well, you get the picture. Everyone warned me. I didn't listen because "he was such a great guy."
From my experience, if he doesn't agree to get help (see a therapist or go to Sex Addicts Anonymous, etc) then I would give an ultimatum. It can escilate. Seriously.
In the meantime talk to your therapist. This could be a huge trigger for you. Just like us having a disorder, he has one too and it needs to be dealt with or it will get worse.
I wish you all the best my dear!!!! HUGS!
From what I remember she said that you will not be able to force guys to quit porn. Guys do not associate porn and masterbation as a replacement for sex. They do not think the girls in mags and videos are better than their partners. As long as it is not interfearing with your sex time together you need to turn a blind eye.
The same is true for guys who's partners look at porn and use a vibrator. The toy does is not a replacement for the person.
If you get Oxygen, watch Talk Sex with Sue Johanson. It is a very informative and at times funny program.
http://www.talksexwithsue.com/index2.html