Is he BP1 or BP2... on meds or not? what exactly doesn't seem real?

Keep him away from this message board!

Try reading the posts, most of what one of us describes happens to the rest of us at one time or another. Their is a support group specifically for BP families. Good Luck

Just figure out some way to let him know that he really is loved. You can do it anonymously. Be creative.

He is BP1 and he does take meds, I know he takes lithium and another one.

It seems as if he uses it as an excuse sometimes.

I have read some of his posts, and they scare me a little.

I dont think you should be on the boards without him knowing it. I dont think that is a good thiing in a marriage.

I'm not going to hide it from him. Just wanted to see what was going on is all.

He should be told right now.

It is real.....mental illness is hard for someone to understand ,who doesn't have it.My family still to this day has a hard time understanding it. They hide it from all the relatives

Look, I don't know exactly what you're after here. If you don't even know what medications your husband takes, then you are obviously not involved enough to make a statement such as "he uses it as an excuse". If he were diabetic, would you involve yourself enough to know the units he needs per dose, or monitor his sugar consumption? My guess is, if in fact you love this man, that you would. So why then, because he has a mental disorder- an illness that effects his BEHAVIOR, is it suddenly an excuse, and "not real"? If I may take you at your word, that your interest is to HELP him, perhaps you should spend some time becoming more knowledgeable about the disorder. Research it's symptoms and educate yourself as to the many ways that the chemical imbalance actually causes one to act or react. If your husband is coming here for support, and you feel that it is of benefit to him, why not discuss the forum together, as opposed to coming here and discussing him behind his back? It seems to me tht if you were genuinely "trying to understand" then you would be communicating more with him and contributing more of yourself. Frankly, I fail to comprehend your alleged desire to "help" someone with an illness that you are not sure even exists...

my partner is in the same position as you obitan..i think he will sign up soon..i think there is an actual community for beepers family and friends..i find it really hard to explain and to even understand it myself but good luck

you are coming in here and checking up on him, reading his posts without his knowledge? What kind of relationship is that?
I think he should be worried about you, not the other way round.

Welcome :)

Coming on here is a great step to understanding what's going on with your husband.
Like others have said, learn all you can about bp & try to be involved in your husbands treatment, working together can make it a lot easier to understand & from my experience it can strengthen a relationship.

Good on you for wanting to understand. There's a Friends & Family of Bipolar community on here as well, it's not as fast paced as this one but there are lots of us who love people with bp. You're not alone :)

See if you can go to an appointment with him - with the Dr I mean. Read up on the illness. Books, not a message board. I don't think you'll find what you are looking for here. We sound off on here sometimes, and it may make sense to us, as we have the illness. But some of the subjects might totally go over your head. I don't doubt that you are trying to help him, but try and find other supporters/carers who will be able to share stories of their loved ones behaviour.

Is there a carers/supporters group near you ? would be a good start