Bipolar Disorder Support Group
Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

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Its been a while since I posted. I just had to stay off the board for a little while cause I feel like I was getting overloaded.
But I am back and I just wanted to see if anyone else was feeling like me.
I am feeling better being on Lamictal for 5 weeks now, of course not perfect, but a hell of alot better than day one
I just feel like my husband does not get it.
I have 3 little ones that I take care of, I pay all the bills I work 2 part time jobs at home to make up the extra $ when we need it and it does not cut it. I pay the mortgage and everything else and my mortgage IS HUGE so the worry everyday is hell alone. He has NO CLUE what comes in and out and just does not want any involvement in it at all. I try but he just doesnt do it. I have sat him down told him the shit if too fucking much for me and that is EXACTLY how I said it the last time. I have cried I have talked I have yelled. Nothing..He works 6days a week from 9 am - 11 pm and that is all. He hates all huis jobs so I listen to his misery and today when he called to bitch about his new job, I told him I cant listen to it. Emotianaly and mentally I just cant and told him I had to go. It sets me off and puts me in a depression and I told him I just cant cuase its another worry I cant take on.
what the hell do I do.....
what would you do...uggg I need to vent...
But I am back and I just wanted to see if anyone else was feeling like me.
I am feeling better being on Lamictal for 5 weeks now, of course not perfect, but a hell of alot better than day one
I just feel like my husband does not get it.
I have 3 little ones that I take care of, I pay all the bills I work 2 part time jobs at home to make up the extra $ when we need it and it does not cut it. I pay the mortgage and everything else and my mortgage IS HUGE so the worry everyday is hell alone. He has NO CLUE what comes in and out and just does not want any involvement in it at all. I try but he just doesnt do it. I have sat him down told him the shit if too fucking much for me and that is EXACTLY how I said it the last time. I have cried I have talked I have yelled. Nothing..He works 6days a week from 9 am - 11 pm and that is all. He hates all huis jobs so I listen to his misery and today when he called to bitch about his new job, I told him I cant listen to it. Emotianaly and mentally I just cant and told him I had to go. It sets me off and puts me in a depression and I told him I just cant cuase its another worry I cant take on.
what the hell do I do.....
what would you do...uggg I need to vent...
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If I was your husband I'd seriously give some consideration to you... and be thankful you're doing what you're doing! HE is not doing enough! (Show him this post! It's from a guy!)
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