I am sorry NoOneLeft, I know how devastating "rage" can be to ones life. I lived with it for many years. I cannot take full credit for its contol now but give part of the credit to my meds. I have been in therapy for years to learn how to deal with rage and I have been quite successful. I had to change from the inside out. I changed my view of myself, others, the world around me. I let go of all the anger pent up over my past. I worked through it, forgave and healed. I practice getting enough sleep, relaxation meditation, respect for others opinions. I try to remember and practice that I can agree to disagree and let go of the need to be right. It was in needing to be right and have the last word I often flew into a rage. It was in needing perfectionism I flew into a rage. I still struggle with hypo manic agitation but work very hard to use the coping skills I have to aleviate some of it. I always exit the situation to recoup my thoughts and avoid negative thoughts about the situation I am struggling with. It isnt an easy feat, but with practice, it can be accomplished. Hugs

I am currently being re-evaluated as they think now I am BPD not BP. Since you do suffer from Post Truama Stress Syndrome, you will find traits of BPD very similar to this. BPD stems from trauma. I have recently began DBT, dialectal behavior therapy and it looks really promising. You can order realy good workbooks on this topic through Amazon. Its just a thought, I am finding this is where my rageous activity is stemming from, due to the trauma I cannot cope with stress... not at all. Good luck to you!

My therapist and I are talking about this very issue... I didnt even realize that my responce to everything is rage. Its not sadness or those other words I cant even remember its rage. It has to do with my past. You said you have PTSD I do to along with BPD. Dunno whats the dx that defines our reactions as rage but I think the best way to get past it is to get into therapy if you are not already. It will take a lot of time to learn the new ways to react. If at all possible and appropriate I would go back to that friend and tell them that you are sorry for the way you acted/reacted and that you value thier friendship. Acknowledge that you hit anger and acted upon it. And that you hope they can help mend the friendship.

My husband was a rager. Anything could set him off and many times I didn't even know what caused his explosions. Pdoc put him on risperdal and the rages went away. He has not had one since.

I don't get too angry although....

My husband IS and I WAS an IT Manager and he decided wouldn't be fun to swap out HDD and load a new OS. I got so pissed I ripped out the new SATA Drives (very expensive cables) Cut them so he could not re-load them. I had critical data on one of the drives and he said to me slave it I was like WTF just because you like this OS I prefer this other one. It has to do with Flavors of OS like a good chocolate or wine.. anyways..

Don't MESS with MY SHYTE!! Other then that I NEVER get upset and break yell or do anything else.

Now I have my own laptop and he has his then we have a shared system that dual boots and the kids have their own computers. Now we have no more I prefer that flavor of Linux!!!!!

Thanks for all this valuable feedback. I was feeling pretty hopeless, but I see others have solved this problem that I did not think could be solved.

I had rages and they put me in the hospital for intensive anger mgmt.
Had to work hard and take high doses of ativan. If someone presses my buttons will still "go off".
Good luck

I used to be in a routine of exercise and that helped tame the rage a lot. A real lot.

I have often wanted to buy a punching bag.

What I learned about my rage is that in my family the children were not allowed to have feelings. Except for happiness. Well, what my parents weren't aware of is that eventually kids grow up and learn about right and wrong.

Since then i have learned about outlets for rage, like screaming into a pillow, taking a time out, going out for a quick walk , to let off some steam. Letting off steam is a healthy thing to do.

We are all human and everyone gets angry - it's how we handle our anger that is the key.

lithium

bump for dd69 question about rages.

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I try not and let it build up in the first place....that helps me.... I have to have sone anger or I can't function.... but rage is bad for me, so I vent it off when I feel a rage coming,,,,sometimes it is writing, some times on here, but I never let anger boil over anymore