hello i'm 26 and i'm bipolar. it sounds to me that your husnand isn't honest and doesn't take his meds or they aren't working for him. i admire you for staying with your husbabd this this long. i'm married with 3 kids and have put my husband through hell and back. i'm surprised he has forgiven me and worked out our marriage. however i have realized that i have to be on my meds to live a normal life. i think your husband is lying to you. if he was on medication and it worked for him he wouldn't be acting like he does. i think you deserve a better life.it is a lonely world out there and you could be with someone who caould make you happy

Honey, my heart aches for you. You have been married for a very long time. I am curious, why now, after all these years, have you decided you cant deal with it anymore? This is a very difficult illness. However, if he is not accepting responsibility for his actions and getting proper treatment, (psychiatrist, therapist, learning coping skills), then he isnt willing to be a better person. Maybe if you leave him, he will realize how important it is, and he will get treatment. He is the only one who can decide he wants to be a better person. But you should not be his punching bag. My husband and I have been married almost 24 years. I am bipolar 2 and have been my whole life. I have taken responsibility for my treatment and I have the will to be the best person I can be. My husband and I communicate about everything and work things out as they come. We have had our rough times, but in realizing I needed to do something about it, I worked to be a better person in this disorder. My husband is a very pateint man and works with me on everything. Tell your husband your thoughts. Tell him you are tired of living like this and if he doesnt get the proper treatment, you have to leave. It really doesnt sound to me like his meds are working and he is hiding from the truth of his illness. Men have a much more difficult time admiting they need help. He is probably living in the belief that this is just who he is and if others dont like it that is just too bad. It is how my father lived and he destroyed our lives because of it. I hold you in my heart and lift you in prayer. Hugs

I do, I'm bipolar and my husband is ADD and depressive. When we get angry and we do, we just get away from one another for awhile. Neither one of us, places blame. When I say your bugging me or he says your in my hair, we both do something to get away from one another. My husband started going to therapy with me years ago and still goes with me today. We love each other and we were good friends before we were lovers. I don't know what I'd do without him, so I don't want to alienate him. When he says I need space I respect it and vica versa. Respect and patience is the key to a good relationship. Forgiveness comes easy if you have that.

My bf has bipolar & in the past has got pretty nasty, they say it can be taken out on those they love the most, not that hearing that makes it any easier.

When things got so bad I couldn't take any more & my daughter went away for the weekend & didn't want to come home, I had to put my foot down & basically begged him to get help.

Since his hospitalization & return home I've set boundaries, I realise he's unwell but I won't be his verbal & emotional punching bag. If things get bad again we have respite care set up for him to go & have a break to sort out his meds & give us all time out.

I hope you can work things out with your husband & you can get back on track, I understand the hurt & confusion you're going through.

I'm bp2. My husband is not but he has treated me like that for yrs. He was put on Risperdal which controlled his rages. Maybe your husband needs more meds. Anyway, I just left my husband after 27 yrs of marriage because of his abusive behavior to me. We've been to counseling, I've been in counseling for yrs and finally decided I wasn't going to be a victim anymore and left. I'm not telling you to leave, but that's what I ended up having to do. And I agree with what the others said. BP is not excuse for treating your spouse or anyone else badly. I believe we should take responsibility for our illness and do what we can to live better lives.