Has your husband admitted he is bipolar? If so is he on a med therapy?
My father is bipolar and would never admit it. My poor mom has had to endure so much mental abuse over the years. Thats why I have decided to take bp by the reigns and better myself. Nobody deserves to be talked to that way and that is how I've spent the past 4 years treating the man I love.

Stop trying to fix him and move on.

My husband has put up with me and my BP 2 so I guess I am at the other spectrum. The best thing he ever did was to not put up with my bullshit. Made my responsible for myself and I broke the pattern of being insecure and taking it out on him. My meds heelp alot. I have been married 23 years and I am happy and satisfied.

Is he on meds? I have been married 2 1/2 years. My husband is the most loving and understanding man in the world. I have done soooo many horrible things to him, and yet, he loves me still. There is hope, but you have to decide if it's what you REALLY want. Do you really want to stay, or do you just feel obligated? Any way, there is ALWAYS hope. :)

yes...but it sounds to me like you need to get out of that relationship fast.

Yes, he admits he is bipolar. He is taking Depakote. He uses his
bipolar as an excuse. He does nothing to monitor his disorder. He
doesn't read anything, he tells his doctor he is fine, he won't talk
with a counselor, pastor, friend or me. I'm nauseous right now. He
sits and watches tv all day or sleeps. He speaks to me like his last
tantrum didn't happen. Yet he wants to go on vacation with me at
Christmas. I love him, but am tired of the threats, power struggles,
screaming episodes. I'm trying so hard not to walk out the door!

Thats even worse, he's on meds and he abuses you. 25yrs with someone is much different than 2yrs. Cut your losses and get out.

My mom went through this. My Dad has severe BP and wasn't really doing all he could to help himself...and help his family. My Dad was the same way as you describe your husband to be, both verbally and physically abusive, throwing things, etc. My parent's mariage lasted for 19 years, and after my father went on his final rampage this time shedding blood and hurting me, she decided that she needed to save her family. She called the police, and the rest is history.

I hope your situation isn't this bad. If it is, get out now. If it's not that bad yet, don't let it get to that point.

You can only do so much to help someone if they want to be helped.

Good Luck

I am bp and say there is no excuse for treating you this way, we have an illness that sometimes makes us testy and hard to live with but he is abusing you and using bp as an excuse. Like a child we will try to get away with what we can sometimes if it isn't allowed we learn to temper our outbursts. They are still there but we have to learn a better way to blow. His behaviour is unacceptable.

Go to counsoling. the truth it would be easeir to leave him.
You are a punching bag only if you want to be.

If you figure this out let me know

Id get out of the marriage. Bettter to live alone then to be emotionally battered..

Not me. I was the bipolar. I left him.
Divorce is so Horrable, I can't even describe. Wish I hadn't left.
But you are in a worse position than I was.
Good Luck and be strong.

Do not put up with abuse but also consider that he has an illness. Only you can decide if it's worth it to stay. I've been married 21 years. I've had BP all my life. Dx/treated since age 45. Am 55 now. Husband is a naturally mellow guy. Only yells about once a year when I'm in a bad zone, being mean. Marriages between "normals" aren't easy but it's especially difficult w/a BP. On the good side, most BPs are creative & when in a manic zone (which happens even when the person is medicated), charismatic. So when I'm on an even plane (which is more frequent as I work w/my therapist), we Love hiking, getting free movies from the library, talking about history & theater. But we try hard to get along. I bite my tongue often b/c the BP depression can cause hatefulness. I know it's irrational so I try not to say cutting things. My father is a high functioning BP & his rages made me think that was normal. Is there more good in the marriage than bad? If so, keep going. My parents have bickered for 56 years of marriage but they are like teenagers in Love. They'd be lost w/out each other. My marriage is great & gives me the stability I need to survive this rough mental condition. You husband could use a friend who has BP but is functioning well, like AA has buddies. So sorry you are suffering like this!!!

That is how I have treated my family for the last 13 years and my husband for the last eight years well the last two I have gotten worse.(I have not been diaginosed) With help from a friend of mine who untill today I never knew he was BP I have realized that I need to take the next step to not only fix all the damage I have caused but to help myself have a better life . I know it will take time. I have taken the next step and I am making an appointment with a psychiatrist . I however am scared to go to the Doctors. I hated going when I had my little girl.Which if you ask the people around me when I was pregnant they could tell something was wrong but they always said well it's just hormones. They just wasn't paying attaion before I even got pregnant or they would have seen it wasn't just hormones. At the moment I am in what my husband calls a normal state .What ever normal is suppost to be , I honestly can remember what a normal mood is.