Bipolar Disorder Support Group

Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

7,119 Members
126,450 Posts
0 Online
Mental Health
/ Bipolar Disorder Support Group

hidding BP

deleted_user
deleted_user
ok so i have been hidding that i am BP to several people. my family and my husband know. i have worked verry hard at not letting my inlaws know. well it worked for 3 years. this past week i had a very bad blow up at my inlaws. bad enough where i left my husband and son there. we live 4 hrs from his parents/family. i just got so dang irrated that i picked up and left him behind. now his family wants him to leave me and get custody of our son and the one coming. at this point im just so down that i dont even care if he does. some people just wont understand that in a few days i'll be ok again. like all of us. eventualy we get picked back up.
tommymott
tommymott
I think part of not sharing knowledge of our diagnosis is to behave in a way that doesn't give it away! It sounds like a bad blow-up but I also think yourin-laws are overreacting. They need to leave it to you and your husband how you'll manage things. Are you doing better? I've had my share of in-law difficulties, it seems to go with the territory.
sjdaud
sjdaud
I would not share that info with your inlaws since they have a negative attitude toward your behavior even without knowing that. Any more than you would share other personal health information.

Having said that, a good apology would definitely be in order when you feel up to it because most of all, I think people want to understand that you do not think that the behavior was appropriate. Otherwise, they get concerned about what you might do next.

Maybe hormones and pregnancy are playing a part in your behavior right now?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with both Tommymott and sjdaud but it certainly sounds like you are not stable right now which as been mentioned, your pregnancy and hormones are contributing to your BP You are probably on minimal meds are none at all and I think if you explained this to your in-laws they should understand. As Tommymott says they are definitely over reacting. Has there been previous events like this one?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think that if you tell them it is going to make the situation worse.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I've stormed out of many of my x inlaws homes. With good reason they were assholes. They sound like assholes too. Who are they to get involved with your marriage and argument. They were probably pissed that they had to make a four hour ride. Next time they shouldn't piss you off and think twice about the ride!
Get a grip it's not thier business and you have a baby on the way. Be happy and ignore. Blame it on them or the pregnancy don't bring BP into this it gives them more amunition. Hang in there:)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I wouldn't do anything except apologize. The less you say, the better off you are. If they start to speculate and cause you trouble, you'll be glad you didn't react again.
deleted_user
deleted_user
thank you. i am feeling better on the situation, i did apoligize. and i am glad i live 4 hrs away.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Good girl. Glad to hear your feeling better. You need to be in a good spot in your pregnancy. If they cause you stress avoid them. You can get alot of so called pregnancy sicknesses to use in the future to avoid being in an uncomfortable situation:)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I've ruined a lot of relationships, lost a lot of friends, and I never knew I was BP. Now that I know, I wonder if it would have helped if my friends and lovers knew about it and understood me better. My best friends just think I'm moody and it's an odd quirk that makes me interesting, but I think it might be best that awareness increased and we were more open about it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
To #9

I dont think that it helps in every case for people to know that you have a problem. The reason why I dont think that it helps is because the problem is still there.

Even though now they know why you are acting crazy it still doesnt make it any easier to deal with. If they loved you they would have dealt with you with the same amount of loving care as had they known you were BP.

People can only handle so much.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I understand how you feel my inlaws hate me and I dislike them immensly. Mother in law threatened to have Seb taken off me, called me a fruitloop and an unfit mother.

Guess who won't get to see her grandson? They live in the UK and come hell or high water I won't be going to the UK.

I can be a real bitch when pushed to far.

Outlaws suck poo!!!!!!!!!
Chuggernaught
Chuggernaught
I say if your Husband is cool with you and every thing is going to be fine with you 2, that you should tell your in laws. It's not like if you hide it long enough it will go away. They can deal or they can't, but what happens between you and your Hubby is between you.
Posts You May Be Interested In
  • irishwriter

    come unwind in the bp lounge

    Posted by: irishwriter
    Last Reply: kisses2016
    7992
    theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
  • Rizen

    Walk a Day

    Posted by: Rizen
    Last Reply: mujicaptsd
    2570
    I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...