Bipolar Disorder Support Group
Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.
I believe my boyfriend suffers with bipolar or something depression related. But my questions to you guys is how do I help someone that doesn't want to be helped? He can take everything out on me and then when I cant take it anymore he needs me more than anything. I understand that he will never be a "normal" boyfriend and that I am going to have to learn to deal with his moods. We have made vast improvements, before when going into a low he would shut me out, not contact me for days etc, now we have worked towards him keepin in contact with me at least once a day, just to let me know he is ok. And I do recognise his efforts, I just find it very hard to deal with, as I effectively loose my best friend for sometimes over a month?
What I am asking you guys is how to I get him to help me, without ruining our progress we have made? I dont want to be the reason to stop his progress?
What I am asking you guys is how to I get him to help me, without ruining our progress we have made? I dont want to be the reason to stop his progress?
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
Now as far as your boyfriend goes it is good that you are trying to get help to help him. You have to keep trying a to get through and educate yourself as much as possible. Go to google and type Bipolar Disorder and it will come up with tons of stuff. Do everything with him in baby steps and try not to be too demanding for him to make changes too rapidly, but also don't allow him to use BP for an excuse all the time. Call him on his behavior and actions when need be, just remember to pick your battles wisely and don't sweat the little stuff. Good luck to you and come here whenever you need help.
I really hate being brutally honest, but, in your case... you need to smarten up. If he's willing to change... then, his first step is to see a psychiatric. (pdoc) Th pdoc can diagnose his condition and administer the proper meds. I should warn you... change takes a long time! It may take months before he actually changes. It's not going to happen overnight.
As far as "I'm" concerned you haven't made any significant progress, period. You're just postponing the inevitable. You'll lose him. BP is nothing to @#$% around with! If you truly love him... and want to stay with him... get him to see a pdoc as fast as you can!
Read her other post. It might shed a little more light on the subject.