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I'm recently divorced May 21, 2007, after 13 years. His idea. He couldn't deal with my "mood swings" and "crazy shit". I liked to spend his money and he loved his money more than he loved me. Oh, and he loved my best friend of 2 years more than he loved me too.
This past Saturday, the 20th, he married her. Yeah, he and my ex-best friend got hitched. I cried all weekend and all I can think of is a way to kill her. I dreamt about it every night. Not good.
Anyway, he contacted me on Friday, the 12th, and asked me to meet him on Monday the 15th, so he could pay me my alimony. I relunctantly agreed. I met him at his house, their house (OUR OLD HOUSE). I was very uncomfortable!!!!
I have been sober for 8 months. Until that day, we drank a 5th of blackberry brandy and had sex all over the house. It was crazy. He cried and told me he still loved me, I was beautiful and he was only marrying her because it was the convenient thing to do because he has got orders to go overseas. He is active duty military and he has to have someone to take care of things while he is gone. Not because he is in love with her. He swore he is still in love with me. We made love all day and I got home right before she showed up.
She called me and asked if I had been there. I told her NO. She said she found him drunk and naked and when she asked him if I had been there he said Yes and that he was in love with me. Anyway, I lied and said I didn't know what the hell she was talking about.
They got married anyway and now I'm the fool and crying and wanting to die or kill her!!!! How fucked up am I?
This past Saturday, the 20th, he married her. Yeah, he and my ex-best friend got hitched. I cried all weekend and all I can think of is a way to kill her. I dreamt about it every night. Not good.
Anyway, he contacted me on Friday, the 12th, and asked me to meet him on Monday the 15th, so he could pay me my alimony. I relunctantly agreed. I met him at his house, their house (OUR OLD HOUSE). I was very uncomfortable!!!!
I have been sober for 8 months. Until that day, we drank a 5th of blackberry brandy and had sex all over the house. It was crazy. He cried and told me he still loved me, I was beautiful and he was only marrying her because it was the convenient thing to do because he has got orders to go overseas. He is active duty military and he has to have someone to take care of things while he is gone. Not because he is in love with her. He swore he is still in love with me. We made love all day and I got home right before she showed up.
She called me and asked if I had been there. I told her NO. She said she found him drunk and naked and when she asked him if I had been there he said Yes and that he was in love with me. Anyway, I lied and said I didn't know what the hell she was talking about.
They got married anyway and now I'm the fool and crying and wanting to die or kill her!!!! How fucked up am I?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
First of all, go through the grieving process for your lost marriage, lost sanity and whatever else you can add to the lost list.
Stop thinking about killing her. It wasn't her fault and you already have the sweetst revenge...she's got him!
Give yourself some time before you start dating or even think of remarrying.
You need time to heal. Take time for you. Learn to like yourself and be by yourself, then you'll be in a better position to make decisions.
While all this isn't your fault, learn to identify things you could've done different. Don't beat yourself up because somebody else is a jerk!
Couples swap all the time... but they usually keep courts out of it ;p
Now on a serious note... tommy is right you need to greive the lose of your marriage. I have found that revisiting old relationships usually doesnt work. Both your husband and your best friend cheated... they are cheaters... he even cheated on her with you... they will get whats coming to them. Dont forget that you and her ex are probally greiving together. I would take it slow... if it works in the end then supper just be careful to not fall into the relationship out of a shared greif...
Biggest of hugs to you...
Buggy
me and ex friends and wife lived near each other for years
divorce for me was horrible, so I traveled altot and stayed drunk
came back to find out ex moved in with best friends husband
What a crock... anyway for me being BP makes all things in life really tough, when I love I would die for them, when I hate, its murder or nothing at all never an inbetween.
So for me I have to try and work towards middle ground, so that no matter what happens, I can survive it
This probably doesn't help you much, but holdong on to your "love" for someone who couldn't be there for you and had to bang you ex friend for 2 years isn't a good thing, and DAMN sure don't rank as love in my book