i hav four kids and very bp. there all fine one of them are showing signs of bp. may be you should watch and make sure?

Why do you think that your daughter is ADD?

sounds like a kinda normal reaction to her emotional environment, to me?

Thank you all for replying so quickly. Bless you. I'm very interested in the conference call. Great info, thank you! I have wondered if she was ADD since she was pretty young. I have also made allowances for the fact that she is just a ball of energy. However she is not only very active but cannot hold a thought for more than a moment or two, her memory is scary short, and she concentrates better when she is fidgeting. Even then her concentration is limited. In response to the normal reaction to the emotional enviornment, well yes, of course. It's how to change that envoirnment to benefit her that I'm at a loss about... beside the obvious of not getting upset to an unhealthy point.

Hey Shannon,
As another BP mommy I'd say just posting this and seeking out help as well as looking into therapy means that you are a good mom.
Keep asking for help. We all have to from time to time.
Best wishes!!! xoxoxo

i used to have a kid, and i was pretty hard on him. since then i've learned/realized that all kids resent their parents, so i don't try to be one. i just try to be a friend. i spoil the crap out of hm now, and don't demand the super-polite behavior out of him that i used to.

i tell myself that you do not know what you have until it is gone. treat your daughter as though you are going to lose her, as one day you will. hopefully all of the time until then will be well spent.

I would book an appointment with her teacher and see why she is shouting at you daughter. Then you could explain your fears about her may having ADHD but don't jump to that conclusion too quickly. Many eight years olds can't concentrate, their hormones are changing and can creat temporary behaviour problems. Also calmly tell the teacher that you conside shouting a form of child abuse and that is not what you expect from a professional. Good luck.

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I went through some similar issues with my daughter and still do If I DEMAND things but if I explain why i want such and such and explain how it benefits her to do it she is much better she is 12 now is a women and at 8 I was pretty beside myself at times.

BABY STEPS:

I have learned not to blow up as much by LOTS OF MEDITATING AND BREATHING I have learned patience out of fear of them developing BPD, and BP like I have.

I have learned that If I was in a bad mood to tell them I was going in time out and that if they did not want me to yell they would do whatever they wanted AS LONG AS THEY WERE QUIET.... Daddy took care of any messes the kids made like blankets all over the air hockey table to make a tent.

It is difficult I still loose it more then I would like but not as bad as I did before. I think this year has changed so much with the kids Because I changed even more.

Tea and biscuits or popcorn and a movie snuggled in my bed in warm PJ's with the kids seems to help motivate them to help me by listening to what I have asked.

I also learned to simplify their tasks only having them do one thing at a time, ie: Please clean your desk Oh that looks great what do you think we could do about your bed. i know it sounds silly but they are less overwhelmed.

I got that last tip from a Department of Social Services child developement speacialist that was assigned to my case!!!!! Thank god I got them out of my life!!! However ir has been a very useful tip!!!

Peace Love and Light
-B

I do something similar to not2sure. I tell my kids when I'm in a mood and they need to tread lightly. I've explained to them about bp and that its not their fault. Sometimes I even unground them for the night so they can go do something and leave me alone (the boys get grounded quite frequently).

My daughter is 33 now and she had to live with undxed beeper for her childhood. I didn't go to her school events, I would go to bed for days, leave the house cluttered, yell and scream. BUT, the one thing right that I did was to get her into therapy. She has even used a therapist through her adulthood. She went into the Navy, came out and went to college and now has her master's in social work. She still doesn't understand me, but that's okay because she turned out alright. She's married now and they own their own home. I'm very proud of her expecially because she had to grow up in a beeper household. Get your daughter the help she needs now and things will turn out alright.
peace, t

Some of this could just be normal mother daughter stuff as well. Teacher sounds out of line and it looks like you are geting a handle. Do better when you know better. Glad you caught this I'm sure all will be well from now on.