I was with a wonderful woman for 5 years, then we got married. I have custody of my daughter and she brought a son and daughter to the marrige with her. Their Dad is nowhere around and they looked ot me as their father. After we were married she wanted more responsibility since she wasnt working so she took care of the bills. A few months later I got a call from the credit union at work to hear our vehicle payment was 3 months late. Then she was working so I drove there and picked her up and asked her what had happened. She told me she got behind and was worried she thought she would get it taken care of. I got it taken care of and asked her if there was anything else I needed to know. I was assured that was it. One month after our 1 year anniversay she was arrested for stealing from where she worked. She had no prior record or history at all. I told her she had to leave, that it would not be a healthy enviroment for the kids and we would need time to work through this. She moved back in with her parents. In the months to follow I found a 1500 power bill, numerous credit cards in my name maxed, a 700 cell bill, we had no vehicle insurance, it had been cancelled twice, and I had had warrants for my arrest over doctor bills of my daughter that she told me had been paid. We continued to talk and see each other when possible without the kids getting involved over the next months. It was always the same, I love you more than anything I just want to come home. I told her it was going to take time. This January I figured I had forgiven her and could put it behind us and that I loved her more than I ever realized. Then everytime she was supposed to come over even on my birthday and our Anniversary there were excuses why she wouldn't show up. Usually blaming someone else. Then she was coming over to move back in. SHe and the kids showed up we had dinner talked and had a great night I went to work in the morning and she left later to go to work and never came back. 2 weeks later she came over and hasn't returned since. My sister called her mother, since she hadn't spoken to me since the seperation and her mother told my sister that everything she had been telling me was a lie. Every excuse was a lie. She even told me that her grandmother had cancer, thankfully not true. She had moved out with her sister, I found out that lasted 2 weeks and she had moved in with a guy. She met him through her sons wrestling and he is the age of her father. Once she told me she swears he is just a friend and it was a better place to live till she came home. Her mother then called me and explained all the lies to me and said she needed to get her help. I tlaked to her about it and last week her mother tool her to the doctor and he put her on SYMBAX. He mother told me that when she was younger the doctors had thought she may be bipolar but never pursued any tests and she felt she definitely was. She was pushing everyone she cared about away and lying to everyone. SHe still does not know I have talked to her mother and know the extent of her lies. The night she got her medicen she told me she was moving out of the other home and she just needed some time. That weekend she told me she was going out to dinner with him to tell him thanks and bye. I still dont think that has happened and I dont think this guy knows about me. I pray that he is just a friend but she is 45 minutes away so I cant always check her stories out. I talk to her every few days, now she wont see me right now cause it is too hard but she says the medicen is giving her a clearer head. I talked to her Tuesday this week and told her I loved her and would support her through everything but she had to move out of this guys house or it was over cause I couldn;t bear that thought. SHe told me she would talk to me later and I haven't heard from her since. I realized I was wrong to give an ultimatum to a person in her situation and I have left messages and texts explaining that and that I would do whatever I can for her and I wanted to grow old with her. I still haven't heard a word and I am lost at what to do or try next. I am going to call her mother tonight to make sure she is ok and her mother does not condone her living situation and has offered her to come stay there but she is afraid to push her. Sorry so long winded but I am lost and not sure what to do. I lover her to death and want to support and help her with this, but now she is ignoring me totally. any suggestions would be appreciated.
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