easy let it go, has nothing to do with you,he is going through some major stuff. You can find another boyfriend.

Oh wow! I can't say I have been in your shoes before. But maybe be greatful he told you sooner then later. Let him go. And if you can overcome his issues and he can sort his head out and wants to return to the relationship he left behind then I say go for it. But I would just let it go. We are all here for you to support you in this lil hurdle thrown in front of you.. But you will over come it.. Just seems really rough at first.. Huge hugs...

Wow great time to tell ya. No issues with him, but that's a shitty thing to do. If he's moving away..... I don't know. I can understand he wants to come clean - take it as a sign that he does care about and respect you. But still. Rough way to end it. If you need to vent about significant others - go ahead!
Much Luv!

oh...you too huh? Yeah.....that's is is biggie.....but you know what? Turn it a round! At least you found out now instead of not finding out until a year later like me after he was all moved in and cozy! I found out the hard way.....thru our drag queen friends! He was husslin' behind The Bar at nite and I thought he was working there as a bartender at night! Be grateful you weren't to far into the relationship. I feel for ya darlin'!

-WOW that is a lot to deal with. I don't even know what to say except this is HIS issue, not yours. He misled you when he got involved with you. You entered into a relationship with a man, with certain expectations, and he was being dishonest. If you can, forgive him. I've been told it will help heal you - i find it very hard to forgive someone who has betrayed me, so I can't speak from experience.

Obviously he needs to find himslef. His priorities dont seem to involve you. You should be the same. Care about yourself. Even if he does come back, or if he decides not to go. Move on anyway. 3 months is just a prolonged date.

I have a friend who is transgender and even had the reassignment surgery 2 yrs ago. She had had thoughts of wanting to be a girl from the age of 5. These thoughts never went away. If a person is transgender it's for real and permanent. No amount of "sorting it out" is going to change that. I would just rake it up to being lucky you weren't more involved than you were. Of course, If you want you could always be his friend and support him in this.

Skater, ya know me... I wouldn't bullshit ya. Just let it go! It's better ya found out now, then later. Let it go.
Men are like bus's. If ya miss the first one... wait awhile... another one will come by! Just relax and wait for the next bus.

Dear Kate,

If you don't like tgirls, then give the "BF" of 3 mo. her freedom and wish her well. It was a very hard admission to make to you. I'd take it seriously. It's ok to care, but stay clear-headed about your needs and desires before you sign on for a roller-coaster ride through transition that may end in her having SRS and discovering her new-found desire for men...just like you have. After a few years of hormones, everything will change, even her pheromones, so you two may feel snuggly, but neither of you may feel very seriously amorous anymore. It's biochemistry, so unless you're turned on by the smell of estrogenized skin and a woman's secondary sexual characteristics...well...you get the point.

Three months seems to be a magical time in relationships - either a make it or brake it point....how much do you like this guy? Are you willing to wait for him and work with him while he figures himself out??
If he is transgender, he is very likely to have ambivilent feelings no matter who he is with. don't expect anything long term...but that is just statistical...everyone is different.

well, not to sound simplistic, but maybe it's best if he has a lot to work out and you do too, so it might be better than you both trying to get support from the other that you can't give right now. I hope you can find something that gives you that. I know this maybe dumb sounding, but how about a pet? I love my rabbit; he makes me happy and he's so uncomplicated.

it sounds like he trusted you enough to be honest. i know it must be difficult, and shocking.. but it also sounds like you are both going thru a lot right now. i would be honest and tell him how you feel, after all he did open up to you.

Kate, I'm glad to hear you talking about this guy, I thought her "topped" himself as you stated previously. Glad to hear he is well.

Dear Kate: If you can offer any compassion towards him/her it would be good karma for you. He/she is embarking down a long hard road where he/she is going to find a lot of hardship and prejudice.

Treat is no different if he is wondering if he is gay. Nothing you said or did had anything to do with this. It is a genetic thing, given to him by God Himself, to work out.

Yet, so many people try to change what God has made, it is kind of stupid when you think about it.

Go out and get drunk with the girls. Like a breakup. Three cheers for him! Be happy that you lost to DNA and not to a houchie mamma.