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that since I have my family's support, I should be fine. He said that I should just stop acting this way. That I'm not sick, people who have Cancer are sick, I just need to stop acting this way. He's my fiance and he told me that I make him miserable and that he has no desire to support me. What the fuck do I do? I know that I really can't control the way that I act sometimes. He thinks I'm not doing anything to get better. I take 5 medications to try and be normal, and that's not enough. He thinks that I don't care about our financial problems because I don't sit and complain about it all day! He comes home from work and is just so negative and miserable. Does he not see that have anxiety attacks, and I'm not stable?!?! That's the way I deal with stress, I can't handle it like a "normal" person. I feel so low right now, I feel like he has no desire to be there for me and just doesn't want to be bothered with me because he has "so much on his plate". I hate myself right now. Is it my fault? Am I pushing him away? Should I not expect the person that I'm supposed to marry to support and love me through hard times? I'm so confused right now.
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Oh, I forgot to mention, I have told him repeatedly how he can help me. Small things that don't take much time, I talked myself hoarse trying to reach him and I get the same thing everytime... nothing.
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Small things that don't take much time:

Like saying things will be ok
I love you
Hold my hand
Give me hug
Listen to me
On and on and on...

I feel for you as I'm trying to get these across to my wife.

Your fiance needs to be better educated on BP. I know it's easy and obvious for me to say. I hope things get better for you. Peace to you
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Well, he is wrong.Not you.
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I tell him that. He grew up with a BP grandmother. I have asked him to read the information that I've given him. I don't know what to do. I'm trying so hard to be stable for me and my daughter, and it's just impossible when I'm trying to keep my relationship going.
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It probably wont get better he's made up his mind.Say your goodbye's before you end up a wreck.Sorry I'm just bitter with people like this and refuse to do it again once I'm free from the b im with now
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That's easier said than done, we've both got kids who are attached to each other and us, we just signed a lease together. I love my apartment don't want to leave and can't afford to live here alone.
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It's amazing how they can't grasp just the small things we ask for. Maybe it's best that you move on. Maybe then he will see what he is missing and then may take action to support you.
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I don't know how to move on. If I do, I'm not coming back. I don't really have anywhere to go. If I go back to my parent's house I think I'd go crazy. My mom isn't the most easy person to get along with.
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I hate to to put it this way, but where the f*ck are your priorities? How much will he have on his plate when you end up in the hospital? And what about the kids?
You should be able to count on him more than anyone else in yor life but you can't thats just a fact. He's a self centered dickwad. End of story. I'm sorry but he's stated how much you mean to him balls in your court.
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i just wanted to say I know how you feel, I have similar issues with my family. I dont really know what to advise. I'm here if u wanna chat. Wishing you the best and thinking of you x
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i know how you feel. i just found out that i have adhd and that im bipolar. and how did the bf react??? lets see... something about how bipolar and adhd are BS medical terms and that EVERYONE could be labelled bipolar and adhd because everyone thinks alot and has trouble concentrating on certain things and has their ups and downs.
anyways... he's told me he wants to marry me but i know i never could. he doesn't understand me and he makes no attempt to.
men. :(
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