I do not know much about rehab but a friend of my son went to one in the states and it was wonderful. They get alot of therapy and after awhile the family comes and there was some good therapy for all. So don't be sad be glad he is getting the help he needs. I live in canada but the boy went to the one in N. Dakota if I remember correctly.

15 years was the toughest age for me, and also my daughter. And my oldest son, is when I lost custody of all of them, because things were falling all apart.

I know it is tough, but if it is a good rehab program, it will do him a wonder of good.

Do you have any choice of where he goes?

If you do, do some research and find the best one you can, so he gets the best value from the time spent there.

His probation officer placed him in this rehab for juveniles. All the information he gave us was the bed date. I have called CSTAR about some questions, and they seem very helpful, but I am still worried. He has issues with authority figures and several other disorders. He has been in mental hospital three times, but just for a week or so, not 60 days.
We live in Missouri

Do you know if they are getting his med. records to send with him from his dr. and/or his hospitalizations? You may need to sign a release of information form in order for them to be able to do that.
The more info they have, the more they will be able to help him and the more they will be able to understand his behavior.

At 15 in a forced rehab I wouldn't expect much from him. Rarely does forced rehab work for any kind of addict/alcoholic. But it may get the PO off his back.

Treat it like planting a seed and a chance for having open conversations with him from now on. The most you can hope for is that later at a time of his choosing he will decide to get sober.

I know this is NOT what you want to hear but it is the truth.

Big hugs. I know my brother started self medicating at 15 with pot and he is 21 now. He doubts his diagnosis and is testing the waters. He has a big life changing event (new baby) coming and has isolated himself in a different state about 5 hours from us. HE will have to fall to see the light.

I wish you and your grandson luck and I know its hard to stand back and let them fall. He is at that age where he needs to fall but I know your love wont let him fall to far... tough love is some times the hardest to give and the best at the same time. Love him support him and let him know he isnt a bad person he is just making bad choices. I do that with my own son who is now 14 and working on his own juvinail record. He is ADHD with conduct disorder and I suspect some aspergers or something similar... as he has symptoms that just doesnt fit. I have to let him main stream next year and catch him when and if he falls. All I can do is be his biggest cheerleader and know that he can learn even from a loose... sometimes more then he would learn from sucess...

Big hugs and just keep on loving its the best thing you can do

Thanks for all the replies. I am so sad but at the same time, I have hope. I found out today that I was taking him to early detention at school and he didn't go. When I ask, well, where were you? His reply, nowhere. How can you be nowhere at school? He has conduct disorder and a very serious problem with authority. He told me today that he had so much crap going on in his head, that he couldn't think straight. Is this an excuse for bad behavior or his bipolar meds not working? I just don't know anymore what to think when he talks to me because he is very seldom honest. Most of the time, he acts like you never speak to him.
I am so frustrated............