My son is 16 he will be 17 in sept. he has a girlfriend that will be 18 in sept. His girlfriend came to me thursday night to tell me she was 4mo pregnant. I had to meet his father at a restuarant to break the news to him, we are dissapointed of course, His father wanted to choke him! My son has seen how difficult it can be to raise a child, his father struggled for many years to pay child support for him and when I remaired I had two more children (girls) 6 and 3 hes had to help take care of them since birth and knows how hard it is. Ive divorced and now live alone with joint custody of the girls. Heres the catch his girlfriend is just the sweetest thing, his father and I both adore her, she says that the baby might not be my sons, she said that around the time of conception there was another boy who had taken advantage of her in her sleep and she was not even sure it had happend until this boy was bragging about it, she says it happend on 1-19 then on 1-20 she and my son had unproteced sex, the dr says she concieved around 1-20, (sorry this is so long) my son is upset and says if the baby is not his he wont stay with her, I had to talk with him because she was to scared, I told him that october is a long way off and his feelings might change by then, I told her that no matter what i would be here for her because I remember being 18 and pregnant. We hope that if this child turns out to be the other boys that our son will stand by her, I have encouraged that, Her mother is going to pay for a dna test when the baby is born, the girl is graduating hs next mo. and it appears that my son is going to be in the 9th grade again,,,hes refusing to do his school work and is in detention every week for disrupting the class, hes a clown, we told him that this summer he will have to get a full time job and save his money, as far as we are concerned the baby is his until proven otherwise, because he took a risk by having unprotected sex, those kids have been given birth control, her mother put her on the pill and we supplied our son with condoms and still shes pregnant? I want to be supportive but I dont want to send the wrong signals to them that this ok behavior, I have to admit im a little excited to be having a grandchild but I dont know how to keep my emotions under wraps until she delivers in oct.. If the child is my sons I want to share in this experience with them, but what if its not and he decides not to stay with her? If he chooses to stay with her we will of course accept this baby as our own? am I making any sense? I dont know how to handle this,
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