Hi Bett, Nice cockatiel!

Is anything in particular bothering you or is there anything in particular you want help with?

Ok betunot your in the right place. What is in front of you that you can't cope with?

First off, BREATHE! Take 4 or 5 deep breaths... now, what is wrong?

What would you say is your number one thing that you can't cope with right now?

Hey come on Bett, let us help you whats going on be alittle more specific.

Just gone real low and having the wrong thoughts in my head and don't know how to get out of it.

i have no family other then hubby and 2 kids. and christmas is comming. i have lost my mum dad and sister, i have no other family

when i'm bogged down with a bunch of stuff, here's what i do. i make a list of the stressors in my life. all of them no matter how small. then i go through the list and eliminate all of the ones that can take care of themselves, ones i really don't need to deal with, ones i can put off until later, etc. i crossed my sister off of my list once because she was causing too much stress in my life. we made up a year or so later once she realized i wasn't going to allow her back in to my life unless she kept herself in check. hope this helps.

Bett stay on here until you get grounded. Interact on this post and others, I don't know why but it works.I get that too and it seemms to help to be in here. Gets you out of yourself. I bet you have wonderful advice for people. Try it Bett, I promise:)

But you still have your hubby and your kids! That is a positive, baby!

at least you have got a sister.

I find keeping myself busy helps... something that might help stopping you think for a little while... long enough for the wrong thoughts to subside a little... some tv might help but i often dont find this helpful..

i find some loud happy music that normally make me cheery and doing something physical.. perhaps cleaning or dancing even helps. try dancing so ridiculously that you make yourself laugh.

I hope this doesnt sound to stupid, its just one thing ive tried thats helped.

also tried writing until theres nothing left to come out.. then burning it...

Just take it one step at time, ask yourself what it bothering my most, come up with some ideas of what could make you feel better about this, move on to the next pest and do the same things. You can work this out, your not sinking, we're all throwing life rafts out to you! We are all standing behind you, never forget!

betunot, you are a very lucky woman to have a husband and two kids with which to share your life. extended family can be more of a pain than a joy, trust me. my husband and two girls and i intentionally stay home at christmas and refuse to visit with relatives because we want a low stress, enjoyable, memorable, happy holiday. family usually messes that all up. consider yourself very blessed.

Bett do you have a faith in God? My husband lost his only son 37 6 months later his wife and just this year our 2 yr old baby grandson. He has a strong faith. Personally I don't know how he breaths or speaks full sentences.