I know exactly how you feel! The only difference is that my mom was the only one that defended me and supported me and she passed away in feb of 07. Hang in there!

All you can do is do what you can.. you can't "hurry and get better", nothing is THAT simple.. it will actually make it tougher if you can't just take the time to do things right, and follow the path that is good for you as an individual. Everybody in the world is different and that means everybody with bipolar is different too. I think it would benefit both you and your family if they could make an effort to understand bipolar which will help them to better understand you and your needs in able to find stability. This is so hard for so many to understand, no matter how much they love us, but they must make that effort to better understand.
You have a lot of support here, don't lose hope, you can feel better and so can they. Its not your fault either.

i'll be honest with you, you should really stop caring what people think and live your life as best as you could.alot of people who know me say i'm a true bitch and i think it's because i just don't care about what they think....i live my life and stay out of there's!!!!!
but that is me......so think about it .....it's your world they're just livin in it!
every mind is it's own world honey remeber that you can't change what others think but you can change what you allow around you!!!!!

if you're taking care of yourself then that's the best you can do. if you're not, you need to ask yourself why you dont think you're worthy of being healthy and happy. and either way, unless they have some encouraging words, ignore what they have to say.

WIERD THAT I JUST FOUND SOMEONE TO RELATE TO RIGHT NOW WHEN I HAVE BEEN DEEPLY HURT BY MY BROTHER. HIM AND I USED TO HAVE A CONNECTION AND WERE THERE FOR EACHOTHER, BUT THIS TIME NOT. HE WON'T RETURN MY CALLS AND TELLS MY MOM THAT HE IS FRUSTRATED AT ME. WHEN WE HAPPEN TO BE IN THE SAME ROOM TOGETHER LIKE AT MY PARENTS HOUSE- I MUST BECOME INVISIBLE. IT IS LIKE A KNIFE THROUGH MY HEART. IT IS IMPORTANT TO HAVE SUPPORT THROUGH THIS DIFFICULT TIME SO I AM TRYING TO FOCUS ON THOSE WHO DO CARE AND... I WON'T EVER FORGET THIS QUOTE: "IT IS BETTER TO BE HATED FOR WHO YOU ARE THAN TO BE LOVED FOR WHO YOU ARE NOT." IT HELPS ME BECAUSE I AM NOT GOING TO "ACT" LIKE I AM FINE IN FRONT OF MY BROTHER JUST SO HE WILL GO BACK TO THINKING THINGS ARE FINE WHEN THEY ARE NOT FINE. I AM HURTING AND I NEED HIM. I HAVE --ALWAYS-- BEEN THERE FOR HIM! I WISH YOU LOTS OF LOVE! TAKE CARE OF YOU AND DON'T FORGET US ON DS BECAUSE YOU WILL FIND THE SUPPORT YOU MIGHT BE NEEDING RIGHT NOW!! LOVE, KAYKAY

Lots of good advice here..I learned years ago, with family or others..You cant please all the people all the time..But you might please, some of the people, some of the time...Live your own life..You will find in later years, that your family can really be the most unhealthy people in your life...I have found more love and careing from a few close friends and from members of AA and NA..These boards help too..I cant tell you how many times in my life that I just had to tell my family to BITE ME!! If they dont take on the responsibility of a careing family member, in atleast reading up on this disorder, they have no place to judge my health or disorder or my actions...I refuse to let them intimidate me or judge me...This is not a choice that we made to be Biploar, its a freekin disease...PERIOD!!! Maybe you could leave some reading material around on Bipolar disorder, if your lucky they will notice it, and read it...LOL....Hope it helps...

I think we all "get better" at our own pace and the disease effects all of us differently. there will always be things that one person with bipolar can do that another can't, the same is true with any disease. I would say that as long as you are honestly doing your best, you are the best you can be right now. Just do your best to take care of yourself and do what you can for yourself. And don't let your family or anyone else for that matter, dictate where you should be in life. Only you know that.

Thank you all for your advice I feel much better.