Hello! I joined DS originally for my divorce, but didn't realize that there was a forum for this as well. I need advice very badly. My ex-wife(recently divorced) was diagnosed during our separation. She was fine for the years leading up to the birth of our 3 year old and we took all the normal steps(friendship/love/marriage/child), but then had Post-Partum and it sprung from there. There were somatic episodes, anxiety attacks, countless ER trips, jobs lost, infidelity, etc. with it all ending up here. I tried to be there for her and talk, only to have her berate me, abuse me, and creep further and further away from me. I've told her that I forgive her as I know it's not her that's doing this. It's not her fault. She has told me countless times that she loves me, but she cannot bear to heap this burden upon me or our child. I told her that love is what you make it, this is your family and we will stick by you no matter what. She has given me custody of our daughter, which I think is smart. But I'm scared of what she's getting herself into and fear for her in general. I dunno what I'm asking. I guess I'm just trying to understand what to do for her(if I can). I also got the "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" speech a day after she said she couldnt live without me. I've been on a seesaw with it til this day. She is taking meds(which finally allow her to KNOW when she is in a manic episode) but is not seeing a therapist. Nothing speaks clearly here. I know it shouldn't but, how can you leave behind a family that loves you? I would do anything for her. I fear that if I stop, she will be without anyone(except the 'dear' friends she has-sorry if I offend with any of this). She says she needs a friend, but when I tell her I will, she stonewalls me. Anyone have thoughts? Anything would be appreciated. Thank you all in advance.
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