You do what makes YOU happy, on your watch, and by your agenda.

Why is she considering taking you back. You're not an appliance. You as a team are considering getting back together.

Why did you break up in the first place?

I hate to say this because I do wish you happiness and peace, but a person who leaves once will usually leave again. Save yourself some heartache and headache. Just agree to be friends.

do what you feel is best you are the only one that can make that decision.good luck

I'd say move on with out her permission. Dosn't really want you yet but just in case she dosn't you with anyone else. Big ego on this girl. Move on be happy you deserve it.
When did it happen that you gave someone permission to run your life?

The problem is I left her. I hurt her. I started smoking marijuana and I chose it over her. She said it felt like I was leaving and joining the circus. I quit my GOOD job and started blowing glass as an apprentice without pay. I didn't consult her about any of this. I was crazy manic. She cried for two weeks and with the support of her friends and family she made it through it. Now that I'm back to normal she doesn't know what to do. She wants to love me again, but I've created so many questions now she can't picture our future together like she used to be able to. She's very confused and on top of everything she is afraid to tell any of her friends and family because she knows they're all going to discourage her from letting me back in her life. I don't think it's going to end up working out, but she means so much to me I can't move on without knowing there is no hope. This is torture. It's like dealing with the heartache of a breakup that will last as long as she is confused and can't tell me to move on. I believe I can't handle reality without her, nothing makes sense without her. I'm so lost right now.

Well alot of us have been there. For me it was like someone kicked me in the stomache I felt that way all the time. Then it went away and I was happy met the love of my life!

IF you are serious about making it work could you guys maybe go to counseling together and she learn more about BP and why you have done/do the things you do and how to help you.Maybe that would clear up some of her doubt.We are all in need of and deserve love. If she is unwilling i wouldn't wait around too long I owuld take it as she is just stringing you along til something better comes around.Good luck.:)

If you want to make it work, then do it. Make a plan, not just for the both of you, but for yourself. A counselor or therapist might be able to help you sort this out, and help make you a plan to succeed.

If you want this...you know what you have to do.

The first step is identifying and acknowledging what YOU want. Then take action from there. Always keep your goal in sight.

She is probably just afraid becasue she doesn't want to get hurt again. You can't blame her for that.

She must really love you.

Well, you can't read her mind.

If she will go to counseling with you or has an appetite to learn about your disorder and how to support you, then good. Otherwise, as bl says, you may have a bolter on your hands, as I did with my husband.

And, if you like blowing glass, that IS a good job. My H did not make much money, but I loved him and wanted him to be happy in his work.

You have to do what is right for you.You have to do what makes you happy.