Bipolar Disorder Support Group
Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.
...being high maintenance for others?
I have been called high maintenance on more than one ocassion. And sometimes, depending on the basis for that statement, I will agree...if in fact, that were the case.
I find it to be a very negative statement for a person who has high expectations. My mother advised me that the reason I seem so "high maintenance" to some men is because I tend to settle. My ex husband - I definitely settled there....!!!
But in all seriousness...where is the line between being high maintenance and having high expectations? Some of you have been following the drama with my now ex-boyfriend...I absolutely do NOT think that my requests from him - taking showers on a more regular basis, helping me out on my bad days by making dinner (not taking me out - just coming over and cooking for me, rather than ME cooking for him all the time), planning things together, talking about living together...I feel strongly that these are things that couples do. Yet, when I expect this sort of behavior, I am called high maintenance.
So, maybe...in thinking about this, I'm just requesting these things in the wrong way. But I don't know what way is the "right" way...
Am I being high maintenance? Is that kind of the bi-polar way?
I have been called high maintenance on more than one ocassion. And sometimes, depending on the basis for that statement, I will agree...if in fact, that were the case.
I find it to be a very negative statement for a person who has high expectations. My mother advised me that the reason I seem so "high maintenance" to some men is because I tend to settle. My ex husband - I definitely settled there....!!!
But in all seriousness...where is the line between being high maintenance and having high expectations? Some of you have been following the drama with my now ex-boyfriend...I absolutely do NOT think that my requests from him - taking showers on a more regular basis, helping me out on my bad days by making dinner (not taking me out - just coming over and cooking for me, rather than ME cooking for him all the time), planning things together, talking about living together...I feel strongly that these are things that couples do. Yet, when I expect this sort of behavior, I am called high maintenance.
So, maybe...in thinking about this, I'm just requesting these things in the wrong way. But I don't know what way is the "right" way...
Am I being high maintenance? Is that kind of the bi-polar way?
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I don't think you sounded high maintenance. Maybe asking him to cook for you was a little much, taking you out would suffice. But the showering thing....did he have depression?
*gross*
I think that generally speaking, Bipolars are exceedingly high maintenance. I think that living with, going with, or putting up with someone who is Bipolar is a very high stress situation.
None of the things you mention here seem out of line to me, or particularly high maintenance. If you are consistently being told that you are high maintenance by numerous people, then I think you must be requesting things in the wrong way, or asking for too much.
But if it's just that one guy accusing you of that, he's a lazy bum and I think you should give him the old heave-ho!!!!
Is that what your mother means by you settling? Do you pick men who are selfish and who tend to take a lot more than they give? Don't settle!!!
Just think what it's like, being with a Bipolar, especially when they're not stable!!! No matter how rational you are with them, they may still go off the deep end and make life a living Hell at times!!!
It may take a very special guy to make a good fit with you, but I think he's out there!!!!
Good luck finding him!!! Or if you can get through to the guy you're with now, I hope that works out!!! (((((Hugs)))))