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do you need a reason to be nice to someone?

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I find it is a natural response to reach out and help someone when they need it. At times I put myself on the back burner to do so but I find it odd to get the response of why are you being nice to me.
Do you really have to have a reason, want something in return or is it a natural response?

Ok guys cut loose on this one and please try to be honest...
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I haven't seen the movie, just like the message.
computerbob1
computerbob1
You'd like the movie then Mid!
Treat yourself sometime!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Just go with the impulse and deal with the consequences as they come.Improvised yet honest.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't expect anything in return for kindness.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Of course its natural to be nice to people but one thing that raised a red flag to me was when you said you put yourself on the back burner. I say that because I'm a codependent and that's a codependent trait. We give so much to others that we get angry with them if they don't react how we expect and reciprocate. Sick, but true.
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No, I really don't think I need a reason, or sth to motivate me.
dobiedots
dobiedots
Being nice is its own reward.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I find peace and happiness when I take the initiative to be kind to those around me...when I am angry or lash out it always affects ME negatively more so than the person i directed it at.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I spend a large amount of time on the back burner! I reach out because that is what makes me happy...to see others happy. It is a weakness that alot of poeple have, but a good weakness!! Without poeple like you, where would the world be now?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I try to be as nice as I can to people. I'm there to listen and offer advice even when I'm in my hell-zone. When my wife comes home from work and has had a horrible day, I'm like "talk to me babe" I wish she would do the same for me. I am polite to people and expect the same in kind. That's my pet peeve.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It is very inspiring to know that there are more kind people in the world than I thought!!!

Maybe I ought to try it!!! LOL
deleted_user
deleted_user
A LOT of people who have been hurt are suspicious of those who are nice right off the bat. They have been burned and don't trust so easily
deleted_user
deleted_user
i was raised to be nice to others. ie turn the other cheek and walk away. be a nice girl work hard and good things will come to you.
what a crock of sh..
but im still nice to people except when they piss me off
then watch out!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Too true, seekingpeace.

And when you are the nice person, it hurts to be slapped in the face for doing what comes natural---at least that is what I have heard from the nice people!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Seeking, I do agree with you wholeheartedly. But the way society is going, being nice has to start somewhere and hopefully be contagious. Just my fantasy world, I guess.
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