picture them naked (ok, I stole that from that other post)

I've only been here a few weeks and yes a few times I did feel worse. People get brutally mean sometimes and it feels shity.

I start worrying about people, suicidal, no money, no job etc. I try to stay upbeat & give hopeful responses but then I worry. Sheesh maybe I should quit visiting this place.

I've only been coming here a short time. But, I've noticed that some people are getting more sensitive, angry, anxious, depressed, as the holidays approach. Could it be that?

Pretty symptomatic..eh? Us over-sensitive sorts..do you think we like putting ourselves in pain?..I think its a form of self-hate/doubt..its the same with postings, or i feel the same way..

it's our brains when we feel poorly

we always think the worst

eventually you will feel better and take this shit less personally

Good point Baggyknee. I'll bet it has a lot to do with it.

It's a mixed bag. This whole forum would be quite a different atmosphere if we were all face to face. It's the online condition that can hurt sometimes. Such as the assumption that since we'll never meet anyone here we can be blatently nasty and not give a rats ass becuase they don't know where we live and so we can be a real hurtful shit. That attitude belongs to the weaker mind in the bag.

Yeh..detachment is good..

Piss on em. That'll make you feel better. Just make sure it is a short stream. ;-)

I think that the holidays play a major part in the cycle of the board and it's members right now. When you face adversity every day in your "real" life and it gets worse because of family conflicts, the=is time of year makes a number of people "freak out" for no apparent reason or else they become ultra-sensitive. I know I am highly charged this time of year and it purely stems from family and the lack of understanding of each other.

Adrienne, I understand the need to "stare down" the people who you feel slighted you or hurt you. I feel the same need to watch those who have critisized me for what they percieve as a character flaw I have--makes me edgy on top of already being edgy---good recipe for craziness, eh??

could be baggy.. but i've been thru season changes here before and not felt so bad.. part of it's personal. but the other part is, like was said, u either one... can't help ppl u wish u could.. or two, ur trying to help and someone makes a mockery..
i also have major issues with seeing ppl that i have weirdness with, but i dont want it to stop me from being able to look on the boards.... i have no idea where to go from here.. maybe i'm having a bad day!!

I have only been here a month and never felt personally attacked. I try to remember my phrase,"we are many faces with many expressions at many different times." I look past the negative remarks because I have trained myself to, or I dont take them to heart. I dont like to see others attacked but I cant control that or stop that. Maybe you need a break Adrienne just to re-focus. Or stay away from the boards for a while and just communicate with your friends. I dont come to the boards every day so it doesnt overwhelm me. I also agree with baggy, it will get worse this time of year because of the holidays and the lack of sunlight in the winter. I hold you in my heart Adrienne. Hugs

Yes, at certain times of the night no one is posting or everyone is in one thread joking with their friends and its lonesome.

We all post here and hope that 3000 other people will post on our thread and boost our acceptance level to great heights.
Unfortunately, we don't get the response that we expected and we feel scorned or unaccepted. DON'T! It just depends who's on... and who feels like responding. Sometimes, we have 100 lurkers... and no one responds! Like... don't feel like it's the end of the world. I (personally) try to respond to threads which I think are important and need a response. The rest I ignore. Consider your post recognized and acknowledged.