So you dont distance yourself from people I would apologize to one person not a crowd. I wouldnt blame BP I would just say Im sorry and thats it.

Hi Jen! No you don't have to do anything. If you cool off and think it's the next right thing to do then fine. If you don't then no. Maybe they need to apologize for breaking a confidence somewhat. Maybe it has nothing to do with BP. (could be pms :)) Don't do a thing until you are calm, if it takes a week or more then so be it.

i sometimes wonder if people don't just deserve it. i mean who's to say everytime i say something mean it isn't what really needed to be said just no one else would say it

I just feel like if I apologize this time, i'm gonna be expected to do the same all the time. And really this is me...it's who I am and what i'm like. I don't expect others to apologize to me everytime I get a dumb answer or get pissed off by what they say.

There you go Jen, you answered your own question! Good deal:)

When I snap at people, I apolgize to them about 50% of the time because I know that for a brief moment I lost myself and the person who came out wasn't me. The other 50% of the time the person deserved it.

You don't have to apoligize, but in your mind if you think it was uncalled for, then you probably should. But only you can make that call. What I view as "uncalled for" can seen as appropriate by someone else, so it all depends on the person. I think in this type of situation all you can do is follow your instincts.

Just think about this though, if you don't have to apologize for being bp, by that theory no one should apologize to you for being "normal" either.

i agree calus sometimes we bpers are more normal then normies

Apologize If you feel in your heart that you need to do it. Dont make it a habit, because you will spend more than a half of your life apologizing to people.

That's just it though, I don't feel like I have to or should. LIke why couldn't she just take it for what it was instead of assuming it was a "moment"? She said it was rude and uncalled for. Maybe that's how I feel about her over reacting to it!

Personally, I apologize to people. I tell them, I'm really sorry, but you have to understand that I have a disorder and sometimes stuff like this happens. That way, when it happens again with that same person, you can just go, "Sorry, BP moment!" and it'll be OK.

It doesn't seem fair to have to apologize for being bp, but apologizing is just a part of it. We do shit we can't control, but people apologize for things THEY can't control, like knocking something over.

Same principle.

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I'm sorry. I can't help you at the moment, please call (or text) later.

Thank you for your undivided and unquivering stubborness in this matter.

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You never have to appologize for having bipolar disorder. However, if I offend someone I care about or otherwise with my moods, I always appologize. There are ways to control some of our reactions to others. Years ago, when I used to just say whatever came to mind depending on my mood, I lost alot of friends and alienated family members. People just stop wanting to be with you for fear you will snap without care on them. I have learned many coping skills to prevent inappropriate behavior. Sometimes it isnt possible, but most of the time it is. Having bipolar disorder should never be an excuse for behaving badly. We are still ourselves and NOT the disorder. I choose not to define myself that way therefore I grow as a person not a disorder. Honey, I know it is hard, but I also know you have it in you to be kind and gentle. Try to show that side of yourself. If something angers you, walk away until you cool off. Hugs

#11- my undivided and unquivering stubborness is highly confussed!!!

I have yet to talk with either of these people since this happened. I'm so torn I still can't figure out what to do.