Bipolar Disorder Support Group
Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.
My ex bf is BP...we used to have a circle of friends we hung out with...everyone except for 1 has since gone their seperate ways. This one friend however is also on her way out. Everything my ex does she takes so personal. Shes never made a effort to understand his disorder and accuses me of making excuses for him and taking his side. I put a lot of time and effort in understanding his disorder because I value his friendship. She has just plain given up. Do you find that sometimes people in your life just give up on you because of the disorder ??? Wouldnt it be much easier on them if they just made some time to understand the disorder and what makes you tic ???
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What type of behavior was your bf displaying in her presence?
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It depends on the day. Some days I want them to get it. Other days I want them to F-off.
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Most of the time the behavior he displays is avoidence. Its not that he doesnt care for her...but she is someone you have to take in small doses. When he doesnt want to deal with her she just thinks he is being an ass....when all it is is that he just cant hang her at the time...if that makes any sense.
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That does make sense sweet. Alot of guys do that who are not BP. Very common indeed. Can you spend time with her alone to salvage your friendship?
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it seems i lose friends everyday. i know it's because i'm so messed up.
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Some people do not want to take the time to understand any medical problem. To those people, you should say "Good Bye"
beckyp
You know being bp is very hard for us. I think it takes a very good friend to be able to handle it and want to take the time to get to know the real us. I don't blame them. That's why I have 2 very good friends who love me the way I am. Other people don't know I'm bp. Of course, I don't go out if I'm having a bad day unless I can fake good behavior. It can be hard, but self control is so important when dealing with others. They don't want to deal with our crap. It takes a long time to develop a friendship. (just my opinion)
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Yes, it would make it easier. You'd be surprised how many people cannot be bothered.
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Even non BP's have bad days and act really stupid and rude. Heck everything in our lives is not always a result of BP. That is just a part of us not all.
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I just told my friend...hey if you cant hang being around him and accepting who he is BP and all...than end the relationship...I choose to stay..if that ends the friendship between her and I than so be it.
Shelly4
I think it is very important that others understand as much as possible about bipolar disorder and the behaviors associated with it. However, I think it is more important that we understand it ourselves and how it affects "others". It is up to us to learn all we can, adjust our behaviors, and grow to be the best person we can be. This disorder is not an excuse to behave badly but a reason to work on our own behaviors so we can have friends and live in society. This takes alot of "self help and learning". Hugs
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Maybe she is super sensitive and needs constant approval of others including your ex and she gets pissed when she is not getting what she needs :))
Shelly4
Avoidance is one of the things I struggle with. When I am depressed, I tend to recoil and put distance between myself and my friends. However, I have talked openly with them about it and explained it so they understand and know when I need my space. It is hard for some to understand that. You say that he has lost alot of friends, was this also because he has bipolar disorder? Maybe it would help if you and he sat and talked about what behaviors may have caused their leaving. If not for the friends you have now, then for future friends. It helps to identify certain behaviors and work on coping skills to adjust and deal with those behaviors. Hugs
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very very well said shelly...thanks...also very good point justrosie...about the approval thing...you may have hit on something I never thought of before about her being so sensitive and needing the approval. She has made this about her and not about him at all...she could also be jealous of our friendship with each other...thinking it is not as strong as her's and mine is. Thanks again for all the words of wisdom and good insight.
Marilyanna
I agree with Beckyp. I shine people on when I am feeling low and they call me. Besides my family maybe 3 friends know I am "bi-polar" the rest just know I geet depressed. (Hospital visits ar hard to hide.
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i made this account because i hope this reaches someone who can understand. I feel immense shame and guilt over my past behavior while manic. I have ruined relationships with friends and family members, gotten tattoos that i dont want, done things that make me cringe. The weight of the self hatred gets to be too much sometimes. I feel like a burden. Nobody understands. I hate myself today.
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Our great friend OlderC could really use some love and support right now... She's hit a rough patchBig squishy hug Kat... I hope that you start to feel better really soon.... xo
