hmmm...they could just spend a day on this board and find out that beepers are as varied in their personalities as any other "class" lol

sick Super on 'em

Exactamondo, I suppose. & I should learn to quit peeking at that board :)

I think its very eductional to hear there side of the story and after all ,Arnt they allways on our board trying to get our side of the story.Dependent and needy ,well no, I dont believe that ,many genius are bipolar,many successfull people bipolar,Its just that bipolar or not some of us get delt a bad hand in life so to speak.my degeneritive arthritis causes me to be less successfull then my bipolar.

I used to be lou to a certain extent. I dont feel that way anymore. My communication with my family is very open so they know where I am coming from and the need for the independence. In my case it was a matter of having to become more confident and secure because I had four kids to raise. I did alot of therapy to get this way. There were times I couldnt even go to the grocery alone out of fear and total insecurity. Financially I know that if something happens to my husband I can continue to support my family because of these changes and my ability to work. I think it depends alot of your family situation and what they feel they need to do out of fear or wanting to help you too much. It really is disabling to the person suffering that needs to learn to cope with the disorder and live their best quality of life. I have a son, 16, who is mentally challenged. We have taught him to be very independent and this has been life saving for him. He is very self sufficient. If we had coddled him, worried about him too much, and done things for him, he would not have grown forward and would be where they predicted he would be today rather then where he is. Hugs

It is amazing how BPs are perceived by Friends & Family and what they really say about BPs in general, let alone the one(s)they supposedly love and care for.

If they have such a poor opinion of BPs, then why do they not just take a back seat ?

I think Friends and Family add to the stigma of mental health by all their negative remarks, that they justify in the name of caring for a Beeper(s) insecurities and needs.

Let them have one day as a Beeper...... if they only could. They would change their tune !

i think the repercussions of this illness can make you that way. and i have been through periods of time when i was more or less that way. but with the right meds, good support, and some determination, i am getting to be my own person more and more all the time.

Thank you for your thoughts x

I am usually the opposite and it can get me in to trouble.

I think you can get more unconditional help from a complete stranger than from the emotional quagmire that uis F & F.

F & F of BP only has 474 members.....most of them are Trolls :-)

I'm on that board somewhat b/c my son and sister are beepers and b/c I want to understand my husband's side of things better. I think we can be more dependent and needy people, but again, it depends on the day, or heck, maybe event the hour! Other times I think we're quite independent and like our space, another thing that might be difficult for friends and family of beepers.

I'm insecure because I have lost much ground when it comes to what I'm able to do.
But I'm not emotionally needy and I HATE being dependent.
If I don't figure out how to make some money, I will eventually lose my house and have to move back in with my mother. I'll be dependent, all right, but it WON'T be because I 'like' to be that way!!! Blechh!!!!!

I think that for the most part, I try to be independant as much as I can.. But isn't family for us to depend on? I will want my children to come to me for whatever they need in their life.
I don't think it is a BP thing.. It is family being there for each other..

Every human being at one point or another in their life is, has been, or will be needy, dependent, and insecure. Mental illness/disorders (whatever they wanna label us as) or not. It's human nature. There is no one person that is happy all the time. And if they tell me they are, Im gunna tell them they are a liar.

I guess we could all act insecure, dependent & needy when Family & Friends are around.

After all, Family & Friends need something to do, to justify their existence.

:-)