I would feel out the right situation and just tell him. If he is a good guy he'll understand...maybe not at first, but if he doesn't call they you know he wasn't right for you. It's kind of a good way to weed them out, no?

I would also enforce the good points...you are going to therapy, pdoc, etc...assure him that you are doing all you can to deal.

it' skind of shitty of me, but i wait until they like me a lot before i drop the news on them.

to some degree, though, unless they've known someone who was, even when you tell them, they will not have an idea of how bad it is.

even when i say: "i like you. i'm doing this to protect you in the future, but run. run away from me, as far as you can, and don't look back!" they still don't believe me, until...

you don't have the plague. you have bp. unless you have have the more severe type, i just really don't see what the big deal is. my b/f turned husband figured out i was 'moody' pretty much right off the bat but it being bp was never really an issue.

The only time that you ever need to tell anyone that you are Bi-polar is when you want them to know. If you think by sharing this it will bring you closer to this guy then do it now. If you dont see anything positive comming from it then what is his bussiness to know. we dont always have to share all of our medical history with the ones we love.

I think you should follow your gut feeling..if he really likes u then he would accept you for who you are and with what you have..i pretty much told my then girlfriend i had bipolar,5 yrs later we r happily married!

Just spill it.. better for him to know that there will be times you will behave a certain way without control but it is No reflection on how you really care for him...Bet hes like "cool no problem"

Be upfront and thoroughly educate him on b/p. If he is not willing to understand, then he is not the one. Take it from experience, I made the mistake of getting into a long term relat. w/ a man who refused to understand me, now I am back to square one again, alone!

I would just straight up tell him. I have faith in humanity and believe that most people would be very understanding. If they aren't then maybe it's time to move on and be patient.

He's gonna say ' He thought so'

Some one said this last week.

Tell him you love him, then tell him you hate him, throw abunch of stuff at him, then sit down and read a book. Then clean the house like a crazy women, then lie in bed for 3 days. If he sticks around after that you're all set:)

Even when you tell him, educate him, and he says 'no problem' it's iffy. My partner said 'no problem' but after 7 years she told me 'oops, I didn't know it was this bad' and bailed on me. Good Luck!
peace, teresa

Even when you tell him, educate him, and he says 'no problem' it's iffy. My partner said 'no problem' but after 7 years she told me 'oops, I didn't know it was this bad' and bailed on me. Good Luck!
peace, teresa

As quoted from Lindel:

"Tell him you love him, then tell him you hate him, throw abunch of stuff at him, then sit down and read a book. Then clean the house like a crazy women, then lie in bed for 3 days. If he sticks around after that you're all set:)"

LMAO

Well, how savvy is he? I might try to explain it without calling it Bipolar Disorder, by saying that I have a chemical imbalance, if I thought that he might be able to hear that without freaking out so much. The knee jerk reaction some people have to the term Bipolar Disorder is often unfortunate; inaccurate and unfair. Labeling often has a real downside, especially the way BP is presented in the media, of late.
If that's the only picture he has of BP, that it makes people go nuts and kill someone, or makes teachers have affairs and/or run off with the children in their care, then you need to assure him that such a view is limited and by no means the whole story and that it just highlights some of the worst case scenarios that exist. And then paint him a clearer picture of what it can mean and just what it means in your particular case.
If part of your concern has to do with him feeling duped, because you didn't tell him right away, stress that it's something that you never choose to share with people until you know them a bit.
Good luck!!! I hope that find a way that you are comfortable with!! And I hope he is able to hear it and react the way that you would like!!!

Thanks for the advice. Some of them truly made me laugh my ass off. Wish me luck this weekend. I am going to do it.