Bipolar Disorder Support Group

Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

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damaged goods

deleted_user
deleted_user
Don't you just hate trying to be the best you can be, then only to feel like your nothing but damaged goods. I try so hard to make my husband happy, but it sees like this disease gets in the damn way and screws everything up. I take every little thing to heart, and when i feel like i have failed him in any way, BOOM the depression sinks in. We had a really great day today, but out of the blue he brought up something i said over a month ago out of exhaustiona and frustration. SMACK, it's like he slapped me in the face.
He is the best thing i've ever had, but he doesn't realize that little things like that can trigger so much saddness and disappointment in myself.
Do other's do this in their relationships? If so, to what extent?
deleted_user
deleted_user
My wife does this and I think I do to.It is very hard not to take things personally, and maybe what you said hurt him enough he can't let go? I know she says thing to me that she forgets later but to me are heartbreaking!
deleted_user
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i can't even see a defining line between me and this disease. i have melded with it now. i am more bipolar than i am patty. that girl doesn't exist anymore. i've been overcome by it over the years and now i'm the parasite that lives off the disease. there is no way in hell anyone can understand unless they have gone thru it. i understand that it's really not their fault. ignorance is bliss for some.
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I was having a very bad week, the house was a mess, and he informs me that friends are coming over. I panick and frantically try, that's the key word, try to clean the house. You know how that works, we're all over the place and yet accomplish nothing and i told him "you haven't done anything at all around the house all week, the least you could do is help!!!!" He still insits on pointing out all that he does do, work, make a good paycheck, yadayadayada. I work, i'm a teacher, have 3 children and have a cake business on the side. I was overwhelmed and i didn't and still don't see anything wrong in what i said.If it weren't for me he wouldn't even have clean underwear.
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I did a post not so long ago about how you can feel good then one little comment can send you down. I think as we are so semsitive it's hard for others to realize the effect negative critisism has on us. I'm always telling my husband that I do so much better with a bit of praise, it makes me try harder. anything negative just makes me give up.
computerbob1
computerbob1
I agree this often happened in my marriage. Print out one of the pages from a web page and consider sitting down with your spouse and discuss the ways they can support you and at the same time try to understand what they are feeling.
http://www.webmd.com/bipolar-disorder/guide/what-is-bipolar-disorder?print=true


There is also help here
http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/bipolar/related/support.asp

To help him, assure him you are trying look here things to tell in this discussion
http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/bipolar/related/support_019.asp
http://www.healthyplace.com/communities/bipolar/related/support_011.asp

Sometimes when we read how a support system can work, it helps us form a better treatment plan for us.

Good luck and let me know if I can help
deleted_user
deleted_user
i've tried to point that out to him, i guess it just hasn't sank in.It is definately true, a little praise goes a very long way. I hate feeling like a failure or incompetent.
deleted_user
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There is always a line Patty. Just like everyone else your personality makes you more than your symptoms.I know this because I like some and despise others.
You are always you and bipolar is something YOU have not the other way round.
deleted_user
deleted_user
thanks computerbob, i looked breifly at the sites and they will be helpful. I appreciate it!!!!
computerbob1
computerbob1
I agree you are not damaged goods. saying so gives power to bipolar. You are a person with bipolar. We have to have a plan and not let bipolar define who we are.
deleted_user
deleted_user
hi hun,
sorry not a good one - my partner of 11 yrs (Undiagnosed BP) borders on clinical dep.
I quite happily carried the can, compassionate/understanding as we are..Worked 40 hrs a wk, eve college twice wk, 15 hrs homework + all norm womanly/mothering duties..when i had nervous breakdown, he told me it was in my head,sort it out..he wouldnt even let me finish my sentence when trying to discuss & educate..the short version being - he said he couldnt deal with it,too close to home..I do understand this..but this left me no-where..heart-break turns to hatred- despite all, i tried to see if i could exist shutting him out (like being with him-but not relying on him)..thats more destructive than me..I feel like a muppet, thought he, of all would have understood better...(so now i cant trust me, my moods or my judgement..)I know im over sensitive, but it i think this was very clear...
I love reading posts about familys working together to understand/help etc, but I think i get rather, jealous I think is the word??
I think communication is vital, so you dont "go do yer head up" - good luck & blessings..
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