I'm sorry you're having a crappy day :(
I know what you mean about your husband, my boyfriend, and family, are the same way.

I am so sorry to hear this. I spent 22 years with my wife thinking I was just an asshole most of the time. They will never understand what is in our heads but they can read, study, talk to others. My wife finnaly turned around when I was manic and heading off the deep end. Keep working with him.. he will be able to see it someday :)

Yeah - my Mom and Dad are the same way and i laerned from them that "insanity is doing the same thing over and over and getting the same results."

This disease is not about them, that's what i have to learn for myself. This disease is not about how others respond to us, for me, it's about how I respond to me.

I have to learn that i cannot be filled-up by others, as much as i want them to understand, i have no control over them. i have control over me and how i respond to me and to them.

i hope this helps.

Good time to be alone read a book in your room take a long bath.

Thanks so much! You've all been so helpful- great advice. If any of you want to be added to my friends...It really sounds like you all can relate.

I would turn the heat up pretty high. (Always want to be in Hawaii). And then do something for him.

WE'll I can't say that about my husband, he is kind, patient and caring. Unfortunately, it sometimes makes me feel worse because he's so nice. He's ADD and depressive and I think thats why he understands better than some spouses. I'm lucky. I wish you luck in dealing with yours, I don't know if I could. I've been married 4 times, so I guess maybe I should say, I wouldn't put up with it, I'd just leave. That's not always the best thing to do. It's better to try and work it out if you can. Good luck

I figure if your gonna be in a mood do it right. When the spouse says you are trying to cope and the spouse wants to know why you are being an ass, hormonal, etc... Just say, "Oh, really" Then just start acting like they are describing you. Let it all out. It will make you feel better and it will make them appreciate the difference between how you are feeling and how they think you are acting.

Teaching a spouse a lesson in comparative attitude can be rewarding. :)

I have the same problem! send me a message if you want to talk. good luck

Beautifully said, I agree with #3. That's a great way to look at it.

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