My wife, who I am separated from, calls earlier this afternoon about getting money from her account which she never did while we together. Told her what bank to go to and that wouldn't charge her a service charge for getting her money. Well she asks about me watching our youngest son (he's 13) and maybe the 14 yr. old because she wants some time off from them. I said sure, then she asks whether I will take him out for dinner. She knows very well that I am on disability (SSI) and am barely able to have enough food for the month, rent, and cover the cost of using the bus (no car atm). God knows I would love to take my son out to dinner to where ever he wanted to go, though I won't be able to do that until I return to work soon. Well there's a long silence on the phone after I said I couldn't which just spoke volumes as to what she was thinking. I told her that I planned on going to the store and would take him with me and make him dinner here at home. Still she gave me the distinct feeling of being invalidated which she has done so many times. I suspected that my wife was going out to the casino to gamble and she's on aid. She's enough of a hypocrite to lay judgment on me for not being able to take my son out to dinner; however, it's ok for her to go gamble her money. It got confirmed later after I got back home from the store and my uncle who's truck I borrowed was waiting to leave along with other extended family members including my wife. I was pissed and she knew it...gave her a look that burned a hole through her blouse. She asks: "What's wrong?" and I tell her of her double standard and how that silence after I said I wasn't able to take my son out to dinner said a thousand words without a single one spoken. Told her that she was very judgmental person and left it at that. I wanted to scream, I was pissed, though I chose to keep from losing it. Just reaffirms why I am glad I am not living with her anymore and have no intention of ever going back. Just had to vent...
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