Bipolar Disorder Support Group
Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

deleted_user
AHHHH im so frustrated, my daughter is 15 and bi-polar.. she lies all the time.. I just thought i was getting through to her, then I find out she has been lying again !!!!
I feel like I dont even know who she is at all, I think she is one person but when I read things she writes, or find out things that she does, its like a totally different person.
I feel like im banging my head against the wall, why cant I reach her? ive tried everything that I can possible do but nothing works.. not a thing !!! ive even tried councelling, but its like she knows what to say, then when we leave the devil child escapes from within....
I feel like I dont even know who she is at all, I think she is one person but when I read things she writes, or find out things that she does, its like a totally different person.
I feel like im banging my head against the wall, why cant I reach her? ive tried everything that I can possible do but nothing works.. not a thing !!! ive even tried councelling, but its like she knows what to say, then when we leave the devil child escapes from within....

deleted_user
I wish I knew what to tell you. It sounds like me. You need to get her some psychiatry help and see if she is a good candidate for meds. You will see a marked difference with meds and therapy. Got to see a pdoc though.

deleted_user
she does see a pdoc and is on medication as well.. it does help somewhat but no completly, and we cant add to her meds becausae when we do she refuses to take them its a struggle as it is, to get her to take the lamictol

deleted_user
I'm sure you have tried this but does she have consequences for lying and not taking her meds? I'm thinking of grounding, no phone, friends etc.

deleted_user
This is my opinion, but lamictal does not help with the mania as well as say lithium. Maybe try that or depakote. I think the lies come from the racing thoughts and quick desired responses from others. If she gives the right answer she won't have to deal with the consequences of the truth no matter how small they may be. She would do well on something that slowed her thoughts a bit.

deleted_user
well i cant ground her from friends because she dont really have that many and really only associates with them at school, and yes I take things away, Just last night for the latest incident, I took her cell phone away. she no longer has computer privliges, and hasnt for the last two months or so, because she is out of control with boys on her, and the things ive caught her saying.. OMG !!! i was shocked.. but of course she thinks its funny. I just feel as though i have a constant headache, trying to deal with this...

Testycatlady
WOW !!! cleogirl You got two things going against you. #1 she's bipolar, #2 She's fifteen years old. Teenagers are tough even when they are normal. I feel for you... You really got your work cut out for you. Try getting some counselling for yourself. You'll need it to keep yourself from going insane.

deleted_user
Well being 15 is a struggle for both of you, but bp too really adds to the hormones and moods. I just hope she is not adding recreational drugs to her meds? We are all here to support you thru it all, so know that you(and her) will get over this hump in the road, as difficult as it is right now for you. xoxoxo

Shelly4
Bipolar disorder is a very intricate disorder. We all manifest its symptoms differently. It is important that you educate yourself as much as possible about the symptoms and how they manifest in teens. Lying is very typical of a teen with bipolar disorder. Some of us are silent sufferers and only expose our true self and our bipolar self to people close to us. It is sometimes like having two personalities. The lying is most often to avoid confrontation even when we know the consequences for lying will eventually be worse. Lying is a quick fix for avoiding confrontation. It is also a way to cover up our true feelings. Sometimes those feelings are so painful we choose to split the personality to fit the situation or the person we are responding to. Take time to talk to her and try to understand how she feels inside. When she is calm discuss with her why she thinks she feels it is necessary to lie. Typically the lies are most harmful to her and helping her see that in a positive calm way can be most beneficial to her.

deleted_user
how about some family counselling?

Shelly4
promiscuity is also common in bipolar disorder and more prevelent with teens and raging hormones. If you are finding her in sexual conversations with boys, that too is normal for the disorder because sexuality is very heightened with mania. Another subject you can approach with calm and understanding when she is calm. However, dont set your expectations too high. She is going to learn the hard way because she first needs to know herself well to discern whether her actions are self motivated or motivated by the disorder. That can take years. My heart and prayers are with you, this is a difficult journey for her and for you.
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