Today I went by the office of our local hospice where I volunteer and did the Christmas mailings. They are packets sent to loved ones who have had a loss during the year and include healthy grieving tips at holiday times. An invitation to our Christmas pot luck, a hand out on how children grieve etc. I just want to emphasise one thing, you aren't going to cause a grieving person any harm if you mention their loved ones during the holidays. In fact they probably would be more than happy to have someone just listen to them as they share what used to be their customs and rituals over the holidays. I do have to share this poem they gave me to put in the packet though so here goes.

The Tide Recedes. but leaves behind
Bright seashells on the sand

The Sun goes down, but gentle warmth still lingers on the land

The music stops, and yet it echoes on in sweet refrains

For every joy that passes, something beautiful remains

By author unknown.