Why are you trying to make others happy before taking care of you

I do the SAME thing thats why i avoid all human life when im really down. But thats probably not the best thing to do so dont do that.

You're not responsible for other peoples happiness, tell them to go take a running jump and look after you! If the realtionships are worth anything, they won't break because you're depressed.
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I find the old addage is if you have nothing nice to say don't say it works best when I am down and around alot of other people.... then they ask whats wrong and I tell em ya really don't want to know...

Kinda like when someone asks, how are you? I want to rip their face off.... they really don't want to know.

Done that am pleaser and want to be liked. Even with therapist. PLEASE LIKE MEE!!!!

I am taking care of me but it's also not fair for those around me. I'm trying to take a more positive position (when I can) maybe that will help me as well. I don't want to run folks off.

I go through this phase, I call it my "I dont like people" phase. Actually Im in that phase quite a bit. I just tell em "stay out of my way, I dont like people right now" if they dont back off, they get what they asked for!

It's very easy for me to put on my "game" face when with people other than my immediate family (husband and kids). What I do is remind myself of one thing:

Although I am not ashamed of being BP, I CAN'T let anybody see how damaging this condition can be. I won't allow myself to be that vulnerable to others.

Being BP does not shame me, but I feel naked - even to my family - when I am gripped. So, it is better to hide it and bring it out only when I feel safe to be the whole me.

I hope this helps you some.

Thanks roniG4 that was great. I just gotta learn how to do that. I really want to. My family and boyfriend deserve to see to have a little less BP me and more normal me.

OMG, I go through the phase of not liking anyone. My neighbor just asked me yesterday is everything ok because she hasn't seen me in a while. I told her a lots going on don't want to be around anyone! right now, I hate the world and everyone in it. Please don't take any offensen to this statement but thats how it is.

Being bp is normal for me. And I do stay away from others when I feel out of control because I can get mean and nasty, especially if somebody keeps asking me "are you okay" because I just see red!!

i've had the same problem. i even lost a friend on here because he said i wasn't good for him to be around because i was to negitive. that stung a bit. i can't be happy all the time. when i hit bottom i need to know someone is there. after that happened i don't reach out very much now. i'm afraid i'll bring em down.

i find when i'm down the best thing to do is focus on some things that cant help but bring me up

i make sure i get just the right ammount of sleep not too much, clean up my self shave and fresh clothes all the time anything that i know will give me little pick me ups then when i have to face the world i have just enough energy to seem a little up and normal but keep reality in as small a dose as possible

hey there, just joined this site and saw your post, I have the same problem at home, the only thing you can do is try and focus on what your doing and why, then go somewhere provate and calm down, apologise to them why you are behaving like this and they will try to support you xx

Thanks guys. My boyfriend means a lot to mean so I will work harder. Plus, I like me a lot more when I'm back to what is normal for me. My normal is slightly hypomanic anyway, so when I'm below that it's tough on everyone else.