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Borderline, Sex, and Marijuana.

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Okay ...

My boyfriend is manic right now. He wants to have sex with anyone who will have sex with him. He has been avoiding me for the past month and has been staying at a friends house. I have been texting and emailing him, letting him know that I'm still here and care about him, but he doesn't respond.

He told a mutual friend of ours that he doesn't respond because he doesn't want to lead me on. He says that he wants to be single so he can have sex. And, he wants to start smoking pot again. I'm okay with him smoking because it levels him out, but this sex thing is a concern. And, he's been lying about everything lately. The lies don't seem to stop. Even about little things.

Have any of you had experience with this? Does this sex phase last long? Does pot help level you out? And what about the lying? I'm at the end of my rope. I'm a very patient person, but delaing with a Borderline Personality almost has ME on medication! HELP!
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So is he Bipolar as well as BPD & are you Bipolar? I'm not aware of lying being a part of Bipolar, I know that mania makes me do some crazy stuff & have poor judgement (well before medication), but the lying part must be something more to do with the personality disorder. Geesh, sounds like you are going through a ton! Are you sure you want to put yourself through all of this? It sounds like you obviously care a great deal for him, but you need to start putting yourself first at some point. Pot does different things for everyone, you may want to check out the Personality Disorder community & ask there about this. I wish I knew more about BPD, but you really need to take care of YOU! Best of luck!
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I have felt like your husband. I'm bipolar and I enjoy sex and I'm married and thought about being single so I could screw every man in sight. I love my husband dearly, but this has crossed my mind and I do believe it's from the bipolar and being manic. However, this is the way I look at it. We all have flaws. Our spouses or s/o cannot fulfill EVERY need that we have. Most of the time they can only fulfill about 80% and the same goes for us fulfilling their needs. We can probably only fulfill about 80% of theirs. So many people give up on the 80 just to get the 20 and I have to constantly remind myself of the 80% I do have. Sounds like he needs to do the same.
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I'm sorry honey, but you need to find someone else. You deserve better my dear. Just b/c he's BPD doesn't give him an excuse to do this to you.
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When I was married and before I was diagnosed, I would get manic and turn into a raging hormone and want to sleep with everyone. I didn't, but I wanted to. So I did in fact lie about what I was doing as to try and not offend the wife. I would go out with friends and "play the game" see how many numbers I could get so on and so forth. Or i would lie about where I spent the money so as not to piss her off. Wasn't very nice or smart, but I did it. And it always led to bigger lies.

Guess what I am saying is, BP is a tough thing, I still have ALOT of growing up to do, sounds like he does too. Question is, are you willing to go through the pain with him? or is it best to cut and run?
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Sounds like it is time for you to move on
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