Bipolar Disorder Support Group

Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

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Bipolar parent and custody of Children?

Ok went to the psychologist today, he says I am bipolar. My question is this, Can my husband get custody of them because of my disorder? The doc put me on 80 mg of geodon, tripled my xanax, plus now I have to take it 3 times a day, Left the wellbutrin the same 150mg twice a day? Can he actually take my kids because of this?

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deleted_user
deleted_user

The only way that can happen is if you mistreat them due to not following a plan of treatment for your disorder. Stay on top of it ALWAYS for that reason if not just to care for yourself properly.
dobiedots
dobiedots

I\'m not a lawyer, but I don\'t think so. It\'s an illness...like diabetes. Only if you act up (attempt suicide or hurt someone, that sort of thing) will custody even come into play. As long as your following docs orders, providing food & shelter for your children and have a relationship with them like a \'regular\' parent, there is no reason that the courts would do that. There are MILLIONS of us bipolars, and I don\'t know of one who ever lost her children. Hang in there and be sure to take your meds as directed and report any med problems to your doctor. Once they kick in and your body gets more used to them, he\'ll prob. lower the dosage. You WILL have a \"normal\" life. My life just began when I was put on meds, now I\'m stable and can deal with problems and don\'t have ferocious mood swings any more. Thank goodness! Be good to yourself, only YOU can take care of YOU!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user

I happen to know that he can\'t take your children unless you are declared unfit. He can not do that. Only the courts can. It is a lot harder to do than most people think. They really do not want to take children away. That is the way it has been for me. I have never had my children taken away and I have tried to commit suicide twice. That is the way it has been for me.
deleted_user
deleted_user

BEFORE ANYONE COULD ANSWER THIS QUESTION CORRECTLY LAWYER OR OTHER WISE THERE ARE A FEW QUESTIONS THAT YOU NEED TO ANSWER. 1 HAVE YOU EVER BEEN HOSPITALIZED DUE TO YOUR BI-POLAR 2. IF SO HOW LONG 3. HOW LONG AGO 4. HAS YOUR ILNESS EVER INTERFERED WITH YOU BEING ABLE TO PROPERLY CARE FOR YOUR CHILDREN,IN OTHER WORDS HAS ANYONE HAD TO STEP IN AND HELP DUE TO YOUR ILLNESS 5.IF SO HOW LONG HAVE YOU HAD YOUR ILNESS UNDER CONTROLL HAS IT BEEN AT LEAST 2 OR 3 YEARS THIS CAN VARY FROM STATE TO STATE. IF YOU HAVE NEVER BEEN THE TYPE TO DISSAPEAR FOR DAYS ON END AND LEAVING HIM AND THE CHILDREN OR HAVE NEVER HAD TO BE HOSPITALIZED, AND HAVE PRETTY MUCH ALWAYS HAD YOUR ILLNESS 8UNDER CONTROL THEN I\'D SAY THERE IS NO GROUNDS . HOWEVER YOUARE UNDER MORE OF A MICROSCOPE SO IT WONT BE AS EASY AS FOR SOMEONE ELSE.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I was in your situation in 1999. I had two young children and I was going through a divorce. My biggest fear was losing the children to my ex. I was terrified that he would easily gain custody of them. Fortunately, it did not turn out that way. It is as someone else said earlier, he would have to prove you are unfit in some way. In my situation, I had even had a suicide attempt and had been hospitalized three times in the year prior to divorce proceedings, and I still got to keep my kids. Most important is proving that you are now relatively stable, that you have a support system in place, and that you are active in maintaining your mental health, i.e. taking meds, seeing a pdoc and tdoc. Don\'t be afraid to stand up for yourself!!! You can do this. Let me know if I can help.

Blessings,
~twink
deleted_user
deleted_user

I\'m going through this right now. My ex-husband said that had he known about my illness earlier- it would have changed things about our marriage.
I had a lawyer tell me it would be easier and more acceptable to a judge to explain my illness than deal with my religious beleifs in a courtroom.
My mother tried to label me as unfit and take my children but a letter from the local CPS agent said that there was no reason to investigate my home(he had been in several times).
Talk to your lawyer- be as forthright as you can be.Make sure you tell them about ANYTHING that might come out in the courtroom- good OR bad.
Make sure you tell them about your treatment and plans to continue it.Jump through the necessary hoops.
Sometimes it happens that you will lose. The decision CAN be reversed at a later date- just keep in there
deleted_user
deleted_user

Ever since I was diagnosed with my illness, the custody battle has been painful and non stop. They give me a hard time and don\'t believe me because I\'m bipolar. It\'s very difficult. Well, it is for me. We go back in May \'06 and until then I have suprivised visits. I miss her. Just try to get along and work things out between the two parties. Try to settle everything amongst yourselves because when court is involved, it will be hell.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I would certainly hope you would not lose your children due to being diagnosed bipolar. Let me ask you this, how long have you been apart from your husband? Trauma such as divorce can intensify your symptoms, that is why is is so VERY important to stay with your meds and please find a support group that is run by a qualified therapist. Bipolarism is treatable and as long as there is no past abuse of your children and you are able to function and care for your kids properly I cannot see you losing them. I raised 5 kidsalone, maybe not as well as I could have, but that was not due to my bipolarism itself, it was due to my lack of getting help. Stay with it, trust in yourself and do not let yourself be threatened because of BP.
Marilyanna
Marilyanna

No get a lawyer
deleted_user
deleted_user

no is the answer , i just one my custody battle , even after printin of all my journals from here n givin them to the investigatin lawyer xx good luck honey x
deleted_user
deleted_user

readin through these replies you have some very good advise , the situation i was in my partner refused to return my baby to me n took it to court just befiore christmas , he managed to get intirim custody at that point n an interdict to stop me removin the child , he refused me access unless it was supervised , and even then it was only for a couple of hour , but when i got it into court the judge overruled that n gave me weekend access un supervised untill he had a report from an independant lawyer , n once he had put in his report i had my child returned to me , even when im ill , it was proven that i still cared for the needs of my kids even if i neglected my own , so long as you can show that you are doin everything you can , ie attendin the docs etc to try n get your illness iunder control , you should be fine x
deleted_user
deleted_user

Hey. I am dealing with a custody battle right now. However, I attempted suicide and they declared me unfit. I had supervized visitation. It has been a year now and I have straightened my a-- up. I decided to give my meds a chance. I quit drinking and smoking "Pot". Now, I really have no desire to drink. Sometimes I'd like to do the other, but my daughter is more important than doing that. My court trial is coming around soon, I guess we'll see what happens. I don't see a Judge taking children from their mother unless there is definite proof of negligence. You know in your heart if you are a good mother. Give yourself a break and take one day at a time. It takes a lot of getting "used to" the thought of having an illness. If you are having a bad day and you don't feel like you can care for them properly, just make sure that some-one responsible does. That's what a good mother does for her children. She makes sure if her children are not with her, that they are in another safe place. Good luck!! Wish you all the best!
deleted_user
deleted_user

I was told by two pdocs, two tdocs and one lawyer that they can't take my son away unless I am not keeping up with my meds and therapy. The only way he can be taken is if I don't take care of myself and become a danger to myself or others.
deleted_user
deleted_user

that's good to know about the journals rjanie, I wondered about that. thanks.
sjdaud
sjdaud

The easiest avenue is to convince your husband that he does not want custody of them. Keep the visititation liberal and make sure that you don't deny him visitation.

Keep a good relationship with your kids so that they are not complaining to dad about you.

Make sure that you and your soon-to-be ex do not let the kids manipulate you two.

That will keep the custody battle from starting.